What makes a great OLD profile?

[FantailsFly]

I want to help my friend (male) find a girlfriend and dating apps seems the place to start. To mumsnetters who use OLD, what makes a profile stand out? I’m sure it’s not one size fits all but I’m hoping there are some common themes. He’s 30 so looking around that age. Thanks!

Spooning put me off too. I think it means something different to sleeping like spoons. If they mean snuggling up on a sofa watching a film or something, then say that, not something that has a batty catlady needing to look in urban dictionary.

And if your hobby is spooning inn front of a box set with a takeaway - get a bloody cat.

Not really much to add, all the advice given here is excellent.

I'd say from experience, the ones that put me off are when there are 5 men on every photo and you can't actually tell which one it is.

Anyone whose pics are of their six pack or all gym selfies for example.

Someone who is coming across as bitter, a woman hater, or making any sort of reference to exes.

Poor spelling and grammar.

'negging'- "message me if your not boring".

Very intense-looking bed selfies.

Generic messages that they send out to everyone "Hey there" "hi xx" "ur beautiful".

Laughed at the 'pineapple on pizza' and 'being the little spoon' comments, so true 😂 also "Add me on snapchat."

Yes @Alaska10 - or anyone just listing their Instagram username!

Oh I don't know, knowing whether pineapple belongs on pizza or not is very important .
Mind you I have a tendency to ask what Hogwarts house they are in and their favourite Disney movies. I need to know these things!

Yes, can we have advice for women honing their profiles too please?!

I’d say the same rules probably apply to women? But as I don’t see women’s profiles I’m not sure what the common cliches are for women.

I had a look at The Competition just to reassure myself that I didn't look completely past it.

When I did the profile I just tried to reflect what I'm like, only skipped the stuff that might attract the Wrong Sort of Attention.

There are guides on what to put in your profile. e.g.› entry › 5-tips-for-writing-the-peb8033438

Apologies for the Weird Capitalisation.

When I have looked at women to check out the competition, it was surprising the number of people basically saying ‘please don’t hurt me’, which would have anyone other than an abuser running a mile.

Thanks for that tip. Any others?

I think it's important he be clear about what he wants from a partner/dating. Some of us 30+ crowd don't have time to mess about with rudderless sailors.

It might be worth thinking about his venue as well. Will he be writing his profile for OLD, Tinder, or some other app?

Good question hyper. So much to think about!