How to deal with gym goer husband

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He goes to the gym 5 nights out of 7, he works full time and we have 2 children.
I work 2 days a week.

He does help out massively at home, always makes sure the kids are in bed etc before he goes but my issue is I don't feel like I see him much at all.
We can't watch tv together because he's at the gym until 10pm, I feel like I have no adult company most days and it's just frustrating really.

I would prefer him to go in the mornings before work on some days so we can spend some evenings together but he's not on board with that.

Any ideas?

My ex went to the gym at 5 am every morning even when we had a newborn. part of the reason hes an ex

I’m sympathetic to him because I’d love to spend 15 hours a week on that.

However, if it’s just about you having company I’m afraid I’d look at differently. He probably sees the gym as his mental health. I’ve got a friend who does 90 mins yoga every day, plus separate breathing exercises and quite a lot of roller blading on sunny summer days.

Yes this cuts into her time with her DH but she does her share with kids and he has stuff to fill his non work time.

The recommendation is for at least 30 minutes exercise per day, so don’t think what he’s doing is excessive. Maybe talk about how you feel to see if he can change the timings.

My husband is like this. To be honest I’d much rather he went to the gym and got enough sleep as well. I love him and enjoy going out for dinner etc but his health is more important to me.

@NameChangeNugget

You are correct but it includes all activity, including walking to work or housework such as vacuuming or gardening. No one NEEDS to go to the gym 5 nights a week to stay healthy.

I agree it's selfish but he just says 'Well would you rather I be fat?'
Does he want to be thin and divorced?

I only go to the gym twice a week (single parent) on non-gym days I workout at home for 45 minutes in the morning and do my daily squat and press up challenge just before bed.

I live in a fairly small two bed flat but I have enough room for a weight bench etc. Could he do his at home as it would reduce his time out of the house.

Watching someone do a bunch off press-ups is a dull way to spend an evening with them.