What shall I do, girls? I was interested in someone whom I came across professionally, so I found out his email address and invited him to a big party I was having. Got a very polite and friendly refusal (going away that weekend) hoping we would meet soon. So, then I invited him to two more things, and he accepted both but then cancelled in the last minute because of work. Then I gave up, but went and did one of the activities we had planned to do by myself, and then sent him a sort of ner-ner-ner-ner email about how I had made time to do that activity in spite of work, and I would highly recommend it to him (but not inviting him). Then he emailed me within 5 mins to say he wanted to go, and please suggest another date. I was then too busy at work, so suggested he join some friends and me for an evening out planned in a few weeks' time. Then, he emailed me on a Sunday from work a few days before the event, and said he was terribly sorry but he could no longer make it because he suddenly had to go away with work, and told me where he was going, and apologised for being rude but said it was impossible to have a good social life with this job. By then, I was fed up, so I never replied. Then several weeks later, he sends me an email late in the evening (ie this is someone who is regularly at work late in the evenings and at weekends) saying guess what ("!!") that it turned out we were going to meet professionally the next day and he was looking forward to seeing me. Since then, we have been working on opposite sides of a piece of work, and we have both been very aggressive, although polite, and not spoken informally at all. Must confess that I was quite caught up in this very competitive mood, and there was something sexy about this conflict at work between a male and female. I also had the chance to see how he works, and he does everything in a laborious painstaking way, compared to me, who am very fast and efficient, because I have to run home, collect ds, cook dinner, and run my house every day. I read something in "Metro" last week that professionals earning over £50k are twice as likely to be single, take an average of 12 days to arrange a date, and are more fussy, and are statistically likely to stay single because they are working so hard. I am starting to think that he may really be disorganised and a workaholic, rather than just boring and useless and undersexed, and I really want to seduce him. I got an email circular today from one of the events that we were both supposedly interested in going to - shall I forward it to him and see if he wants to go and make it clear that this meeting is outside the professional work? Or is that demeaning?