Hi all, I'm new to the fold and even though I'm a guy in my late 50's, who apart from being reasonably clever, has moved with the times and done courses and classes to educate myself further to enhance my career prospects. My friends call me a great guy who has been a good grafter/bread winner to my family and not one to shy away from making sure my family are a priority. After leaving a long term relationship, I made sure my teenage kids, who live with their mother and are finished school, are well cared for and never short or stuck in any way.
However, I met a lady some 6 months ago and it was immediate, that we knew we were the only two parts of a jigsaw. We got on superb from that first date and apart from a few times that I've been ill or had other things needing my attention, we spend the weekends together.
Something to note from the start, I drive and she can't, due to a medical issue, but, this doesn't bother me, I enjoy driving, so it's no biggie and she's less than an hour away. After seeing her for a month, she suggested staying the weekend with her, I was in agreement, so that weekend, we spend together. The same happened every weekend since. On Monday gone, I ordered an item, that because of what it is, the laws and how the company works, they only deliver on Fridays, Saturdays and Sunday, so I suggested to her, having the weekend at my home as I had a very important delivery being made to me by a courier this weekend. I said, "the delivery I'm expecting is very valuable and has cost me a large sum of money, I have to be at home between 8.30am and 11.30 am, this is in case, the courier is ahead or behind on his deliveries, the time scale is 3 hours". She went very quiet, I asked if she was OK, she replied, "yes, but I don't want to go to your home", when I asked why, she simply said, "I don't like it". I was both stunned and offended, I keep a very clean and tidy home, that doesn't smell like that of some single guys, in fact, my home is tidier than her's. I asked her what the issue was, she claimed she didn't like where I live. I told her, "I've been here all my life and although it's nothing like where you live, it's a nice small and quiet village, that doesn't have a huge high street or shopping malls within ear shot and the place is a good way from a major road. Once the delivery has been made, we can jump in the car and go to her house, even at that suggestion, she flatly refused.
I've sat on this, mulling it over, but the last couple of days has become an issue for me. It's only one weekend and it's not going to be a big deal, but I feel taken for granted. I can't understand her reluctance, it's not like she's a million miles away from home.
Is there something I'm missing and can't see here?