Possible to have a row-free long term relationship?

[anyname147]

Just wondered if anyone has been or is in a long term relationship (7 plus years), or knows of any long term couples, who only have minor disagreements/rows on rare occasions (behind closed doors), as opposed to huge rows/disagreements from time to time? I would be interested if such relationships do actually happen?

Theres 2 sidea to not arguing.

My mums best friends never argued with her husband. She passed away and everyone talked about happy hee and her husband were and never had a crossed word. Although they loved eachother, she wasnt happy in the marriage. He was quite selfish, put all weekend while she had the kids, did what he wanted. They didnt argue because she would never tell him she was unhappy. That's not healthy.

Me and dp have been together a few years and no longer argues as such. We disagree. We also can both be grumpy. But if one of us is tired or grumpy, the other tends to just step in and make life easier. If I am knackered, grumpy or upset, do will run me a bath and make dinner or just give me a hug, let me be grumpy for a bit and then ask me if I want to talk. I do the same for him. We accept we are both flawed and both just give eachother space to just feel how we feel.

16 years, 2 DC's and rarely argue. We bicker occasionally but hardly ever raise voices. Probably only had about 4 or 5 instances of shouting over the years if that.

We have recently come close to splitting up and still not raised voices. I think it's down to the nature of the parties involved and their communication style and personalities.

We've been together 22 years and never argue. We went through a period of bickering when the DC we're young and we were both sleep deprived, but we came out the other side of that a few years ago.

This is mainly due to DH I think. My relationship with my ex was much more fiery!

My ex and I were terrible. He'd come home angry every day, door slamming, rude and curt. In the end I stopped trying to help him or to make him feel better and gave back in kind. And that's when it was over for me.

Thankfully I left and am nearly 15 years into a wonderful, peaceful, respectful relationship where I feel loved and I love in return and we treat each other with kindness and generosity.

The way you treat those closest to you says a lot about you. How are you towards the person whose life and wounds you know best?

We don't have major rows. We can disagree and get grumpy now and again, but any major disagreements are discussed rather than argue. My dh has never once sworn, insulted or shouted at me, and me him.