The main one- I was 20, the internet was only just starting to be a thing then (1997.) Unbeknownst to me I have ASD traits, which maybe made it harder for me to meet people in a conventional 20-year-old manner for the time- clubs, friends, etc- and so I chose to put an advert in Guardian Soulmates.
All these guys were in their mid 30s or so.
The main one- about 5 ft tall with ginger hair and glasses (not that there's anything wrong with any of these, but together they were bad, and when combined with his personality, worse) he had to have his trousers made bespoke for his approx size 6-8 frame, and they were in stripes of orange, brown and beige.
At one point in the 'date' I was having a cigarette and said 'I should give up, really,' He said something like 'just do this,' with a really nasty face and voice, grabbed my 1/4 smoked cigarette and bent and stubbed it out in the ashtray (I was a student who was even more crap at budgeting than the average student, so even more broke, so that really stung.)
At the end of the date with this hideous and obnoxious guy, I stepped onto the train as he stood on the platform. He was Catholic and I was in a Catholic phase that lasted a couple of months, so that explains his subsequent comment so early in the relationship. He said something like 'I'm just trying to make this work,'' as the doors of the train closed between us and I sped away!
#2 Fat, grey, short guy. Something about him suggested alcoholism. We went to a cafe where there was a through draught. My hair was blowing into my mouth, turned out he had a phobia of hair and this freaked him out. I said this wouldn't work (as I wasn't attracted to him- not that I said that) and he claimed to agree. He said something like 'the irony is that you look just like my ex girlfriend.' I'm honestly not vain but I found myself thinking that was highly unlikely!
#3 Bloke was into Neuro-Linguistic Programming in a cult like way- spent hundreds/thousands on courses etc. As we were talking he did a strange Agadoo-like movement with his hands constantly. At the end of the date I said I don't think this would work, and he agreed. He was the least worst, (though he wasn't attractive) we were interested in similar things, and if it wasn't for the Agadoo, I might've seen him again, but sadly it was a real turn-off. When he agreed it wouldn't work (which most of them probably do, for their ego) I felt like mentioning the Agadoo thing to bring it to his awareness, but I didn't.
So those were the worst. Another, more recent one, earlier this year, from PoF, was particularly bad sexually- I was attracted to him, so he left me really wound up. He had erectile problems, so I had to masturbate him for him to come at all, and he was incapable of penetrative sex (there were no real health reasons for this, though he was obese.)
So, I was really, really wound up, and he wasn't doing anything about it. I picked up my toy from the side of the bed, and said 'this is my magic wand toy, you can use it on me if you like.' He said 'Oh is that what it is- I thought it was a microphone,' and dropped it back down the side of the bed!!!? I felt like saying 'when I said "you can use it on me if you like," that wasn't really a suggestion, it was a request,' but I didn't lol. I finished with him by txt the next day, just saying I didn't think we were compatible. He didn't reply.
The moral of many of these stories is if you think something, say it.:) Hope this helps xxx