Hi everyone. First off thank you for taking the Time to read this.
My husband and I have been together for nearly 11 years. About 6 years ago I'd say, bad habits and signs of disrespect began. Not outwards abuse but he says things that belittle me, he talks badly about my family, he judges a lot of what I do and laughs at me. All of this has increased over the years. I have talked to him about his behaviour many times and even brought up separation and divorce if things don't change. I feel so resentful now and I hate it. I WANT to be together and love him and know he isn't who he is being right now. He is depressed and dealing with chronic pain daily so I know he is struggling. And I give him a lot of grace for that. I guess I just don't know what to do anymore. Sometimes I feel as if I'm overreacting and that I need to support him through this dark time no matter what. How could I possibly think of leaving right now as he's going through all this. But I am suffering too. Not to mention we have two small children. I don't know what to do before I can't bare this relationship anymore. We tried therapy a couple of very short times. We didn't work on things so we stopped going.
Any insight would be appreciated.