My ex gf is being strange towards me.

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Ok so a bit of background. We broke up 7 months ago after things not working for a while. Believe me I tried to fix things but she would cancel plans, shift days, make excuses etc when I asked or tried to make an effort with her.
We eventually 'mutually' broke up after she said to me we can't carry on like this and I agreed. After breaking up we kept in touch on and off, with us both initiating and I tried to meet up, talk to work things out but she wouldn't. She evetually ignores me and we stop speaking for months. We then started speaking again after a few months and she asked how I was etc. We got talking abiut the break up and the relationship and I asked her if she wanted to meet and try again after she asked me what I was thinking. She told me she was confused and didn't know.....but we could carry on talking and she would let me know when she knows. ....(how's long a piece of string?) so after two week of talk, mainly me initiating and her taking hours sometimes to reply even tho she is online posting I asked again to which she told me we had talked about that and then proceeeded to ignore my reply (like usual) and not get back in touch. When she does this I never reinstate contact.
So two months went by and nothing.
It was her bday a couple of weeks ago so I decided on a human level to wish he really a happy bday. I did it in a way that wasn't a direct message to her, meaning she could read it and not have to get in touch.
Later that day she messaged me thanking me, asking how I was etc And seemed to pleased to hear from me. I replied in a casual fashion, and she kept replying to me until you guessed it she stopped and ignored me again. At this point I really don't care because she's done it so many times and I find it rude.
So I just carried on with life and I went away for the weekend. I posted a picture on my Instagram of the weekend and as soon as I did that, she pops up again! Replying to my message I sent her 5 DAYS previous???
She then went on to ask me if I had a good weekend........I think she was trying to be nosey so I replied that I did and asked if she did. Again she hasn't bothered to reply lol.

Can anyone enlighten me on what this girl is doing? I'm getting passed the point now where I don't care if she ignores me, I think that says more about her than me. I'm confused as to why she would be acting like this if she's refuses to meet with me or even just chat.

She's not that into you. Move on.

Just move on, she’s not interested and is just keeping you hanging on in case no one else is around.

I'm confused as to why she would be acting like this if she's refuses to meet with me or even just chat
I'm confused as to why you keep flogging this dead horse.
She is not into you.
She is messing you around.
Keeping you as an option, just in case!
Value yourself more than this.
Block her on everything. Don't be tempted to unblock or look at anything.
No contact!
It's the only way to move on with your life.

She keeps you hanging on for an ego boost. She doesn’t want you but replies just often enough to keep you hanging on.

Because she isn't that into you OP, but is probably bored or enjoys the ego boost of the fact you still make it clear you think about her quite a bit, people often don't like giving that up so they'll reply just enough to keep it going.

Honestly I'd block and move on, you deserve more than crumbs surely, as do we all.

Thanks. I'm only replying out of being polite. I've moved on in the last couple of months and tbh her behaving like this has helped me , she's showing her true colours. Little does she know I'm dating others I'm just confused why she's like this.

Can anyone enlighten me on what this girl is doing?

She doesn't really want you but she wants you to stay available to play with if she is alone, the second someone else comes along she'll dump you again. There is no future in this for you. Best would be to block her and move on.

Start ignoring her and move on

Who gives a shit why she is like this?
It's horrible and not nice and that's all you need to know.

OK - stop with the 'polite' crap.
You owe her nothing.
She has ghosted and ignored you on numerous occasions so stop replying. She is not polite.
You are dating others. If they find out you are messaging an ex then they won't be too pleased.
So just stop it.
Simples!

There's a very convenient feature on your phone. It's called BLOCK. Use it.

I'll be honest, the both of you sound like school children.

TLDR
Most likely using you to bolster her self esteem whenever she has a bloaty day.
Find happiness with a new love. She's not that into you

little does she know I'm dating others

Little does she care. Sorry, but she doesn't. If she was into you she'd be excited to talk to you, would put everything else aside to reply, would be waiting on your responses. She's just being a casual acquaintance.

@hellsbellsmelons thankyou. Good to know you think it's not polite too.
It's the fact as soon as I put up I went away she reappeared lol.

Block her. You’re an ego boost

Little does she know I'm dating others I'm just confused why she's like this.

Really!! She’s not the only one keeping their options open.

@agentjohnson or really after her rejecting me last time I decided to move on. But she keeps coming back.

Maybe its an ego thing, may e she just sees you as a mate but doest want to reject you again.

You say she 'ignores you' yet, she clearly replies to your conversations and even 'for hours' once so...I'm not sure how one sided this all is... I mean for all we know you are an obsessive texter and she has to stop at some point or you'll never leave her in peace xD and replying a few times and then replying to your last text five days later, isn't 'ignoring you'.

It does however show you that you aren't a priority to her. Which, if she views you as an acquaintance that she respects, is fine. But not if you want something more from her.

Others have argued she is keeping you dangelling for an ego boost. Possible. But also possible she tried to break up with you but you keep getting back in touch and she feels bad, she isn't very confrontational and doesn't like upsetting people so she isn't being as firm as she should be with you. Besides 'he's a nice guy so there's no harm in chatting sometimes, but not too much or he'll get the wrong idea'.

Either way, cut contact, she's just not that into you.

'after her rejecting me last time I decided to move on.'

You haven't moved on though, if you're still bothered about how she acts etc (which if you're honest, you are.)

You deserve better than this.

Ignore her- block her if you need to do that in order to ignore her. On to the next. xx

@interestedwoman thanks. I know I deserve better, I just don't know what I've done to be treated like this.

@pinkbonbon I'm not a serial texted I only reply if and when she does. I don't blow her phone up ever. Never have done since we broke up.

She keeps coming back because your emotionally available.

@agentjohnson I will stop replying. Not going to be her ego boost anymore.

The thing missing from your posts was your complicity. You couldn’t have been her ego boost if you were available to provide one.

@AgentJohnson yes very true.

She stopped replying anyway. I went away for the weekend and put up some pics if my visit on my social media.
She saw these and after 5 days of ignoring me messaged me asking what id been upto over the weekend!?!

Sounds like she only chats to you when she is bored. Block and move on, it will be the best thing for you

She’s just not that into you.

Stop contacting her.

She might then start contacting you because you are an ego boost. Just blank her. She doesn’t respect you. You deserve somebody who does. Know your worth.