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My ex gf is being strange towards me.

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mighty23456 · 18/11/2019 13:47

Ok so a bit of background. We broke up 7 months ago after things not working for a while. Believe me I tried to fix things but she would cancel plans, shift days, make excuses etc when I asked or tried to make an effort with her.
We eventually 'mutually' broke up after she said to me we can't carry on like this and I agreed. After breaking up we kept in touch on and off, with us both initiating and I tried to meet up, talk to work things out but she wouldn't. She evetually ignores me and we stop speaking for months. We then started speaking again after a few months and she asked how I was etc. We got talking abiut the break up and the relationship and I asked her if she wanted to meet and try again after she asked me what I was thinking. She told me she was confused and didn't know.....but we could carry on talking and she would let me know when she knows. ....(how's long a piece of string?) so after two week of talk, mainly me initiating and her taking hours sometimes to reply even tho she is online posting I asked again to which she told me we had talked about that and then proceeeded to ignore my reply (like usual) and not get back in touch. When she does this I never reinstate contact.
So two months went by and nothing.
It was her bday a couple of weeks ago so I decided on a human level to wish he really a happy bday. I did it in a way that wasn't a direct message to her, meaning she could read it and not have to get in touch.
Later that day she messaged me thanking me, asking how I was etc And seemed to pleased to hear from me. I replied in a casual fashion, and she kept replying to me until you guessed it she stopped and ignored me again. At this point I really don't care because she's done it so many times and I find it rude.
So I just carried on with life and I went away for the weekend. I posted a picture on my Instagram of the weekend and as soon as I did that, she pops up again! Replying to my message I sent her 5 DAYS previous???
She then went on to ask me if I had a good weekend........I think she was trying to be nosey so I replied that I did and asked if she did. Again she hasn't bothered to reply lol.

Can anyone enlighten me on what this girl is doing? I'm getting passed the point now where I don't care if she ignores me, I think that says more about her than me. I'm confused as to why she would be acting like this if she's refuses to meet with me or even just chat.

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Boysey45 · 21/11/2019 17:56

I'd say shes stringing you along because she likes the attention and having you as an option. I'd say your not over her at all, and are chasing her.
Stop showing yourself up OP and block her and try to look for a partner who cares about you and puts you first.

Thestrangestthing · 21/11/2019 18:21

She can't keep replying to you forever. Someone has to end the conversation at some point. Also you don't actually need to reply when she messages you. You are playing the game.

mighty23456 · 24/11/2019 13:17

@Minionmomma thanks. I'm starting to realise she doesn't respect me. It's pretty rude what she does. She is th one who started the conversation and asks questions then all of a sudden she disappears and completely ignores me.

@boysey45 thanks. I've not contacted her and won't now. She is the one who started the convo and the last message she sent she was asking me a ignored my reply since. If it was me bombarding her with questions then I would understand why she would ignore me.

@Thestrangestthing
I understand that but what I don't understand is why she started the convo, and the last message she sent she was asking me two questions to which I replied but she hasn't even read it and ignored me.

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MashedSpud · 24/11/2019 13:25

Either block or ignore her messages.

She’s just keeping you on the back burner like a little faithful puppy. She doesn’t want to be with you so just focus on dating.

mighty23456 · 24/11/2019 16:07

@MashedSpud thanks for your help :)

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