Hello I’ll try and keep this as neutral as possible although maybe I’m being unreasonable expecting people who don’t know us to be able to answer this. But I guess it’s easief than asking my friends.
I went out with my ex for a year. We knew each other through work. He broke up with me in the summer - was very firm that we wouldn’t get back together and that we were incompatible. We did used to argue a lot. At one point said “hopefully we can be friends once the dust settles” which I thought was a throwaway comment really out of politeness.
I didn’t hear anything from him for 8 weeks when I got a message out of the blue asking if we could be friends but he also understood if I didn’t want to or needed more time. I replied back a very neutral sure and I’m keeping well. Since then he messages me about every three days and we have long conversations by text and a couple on the phone. We’ve literally not gone more than three days without talking.
It feels like we really are friends now and we get along. But I suppose I’m just curious if that’s what he really wants. It does seem bizarre to me. And I do wonder if it can be just that.
Does he just want to be friends???