Well done @fudgecakelova11122 sounds like you have your head screwed on.
Anyone reading and going through the same thing. Ignore the advice from @1forAll74 The advice is dangerous. Never confront a controlling or abusive person in person. You have to protect yourself mentally and physically. Their behaviour is entirely on them. If they feel sad why should you care? Did that person feel sad, guilt or remorse when they did those things? No.
Ideally ending something by phone/text isn't the done thing. But getting away from abuse the only rules are protect yourself.
Abuse - Control, Manipulation, Physical, Emotional, Financial, Grooming, Neglect
No-one should be putting up with this.
It's hard. But there is help out there. Even if the first step involves asking a bunch of strangers on the net. Go for it.
There will be times you question whether you made the right choice.
When you want to contact him
Want to go back to him.
Forget the good times. Remember those bad times. Remember how he made you feel. Remember what he did. This is for all going through the same. I know we shouldn't hold onto the past, but like I said when there's abuse, you have to ignore the usual 'rules'.
I got out of mine several years ago.
Best thing ever. The release of the weight was huge. It didn't start at the beginning, we'd been together for around 10 years before he changed. Or maybe that's when my eyes opened. I'm really not sure.
I never really guilt about ending it. I felt guilt that I had let my dc's be in that situation for so long. And that's what got me through the moments of going back.
It's completely normal to have those thoughts. Because remember, every time they did something to you, they told you it was your fault. It wasn't. You are not responsible for their actions. It's all on them.
I also suggest the freedom program for anyone who is living with or has lived with abuse.