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Snooping for proof

29 replies

TimeThief · 13/11/2019 23:54

My not-so-‘D’H has been gaslighting me that I am crazy to imagine he’s cheating...Rightly or wrongly I’ve been snooping so that I can put myself out of the misery of not knowing. Think I’ve found the OW - please don’t judge me but does anyone know if you can find someone’s name from their phone number and WhatsApp profile picture alone?

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NormaLouiseBates · 13/11/2019 23:56

Search the phone number on Facebook. If she's on there and has her number linked to her account you might find her.

TimeThief · 14/11/2019 00:10

Thanks NormaLouise - had tried that but no results. I don’t recognise her and I know folk will come on and say to just LTB, but I have this need to know who she is. Until you’ve been in a similar situation it’s hard to imagine how strong that need is, especially when you’ve been persistently lied to and made to feel like you’re going mad.

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Buster2997 · 14/11/2019 00:14

Hi I was kinda in the same situation a few weeks ago! Does any of girls know that on Snapchat if it says you've opened a message from a person a year ago that the dates are accurate or can Snapchat malfunction x

JellyTots2009 · 14/11/2019 05:21

It depends if her setting are set to her contacts or public. If you can't see a picture then she either doesn't have one or she has got her settings set to just her contacts seeing it. You will only know when you save her as a contact and check WhatsApp again

ExceptionFatale · 14/11/2019 05:44

If she's using her photo as her WhatsApp profile photo, you may be able to take that and do a reverse image search on it. I don't use WhatsApp myself, however if you can't just straight save the photo by right clicking on it or similar - take a screenshot of the open profile where her image is displayed. On a PC, you'd press the print screen button - on a tablet or phone you may need to look how to take a screenshot with your device but I know on both my Samsung phone and tablet, it's holding the power button and the home button down together for about 3 seconds.

Once you get your screenshot, you'll need to crop the image out, on a PC it's fairly simple - open MSPaint, press CTRL+V to paste, then take the rectangular selection tool, select the photo and press CTRL+C. Then either open a new instance of MSPaint or use the dropdown menu and select "New" - once you're sitting at a blank paint image press CTRL+V once again to paste the image into its own new image file then Save As - name your image and I would suggest saving it as a .jpg or .jpeg file type as any reverse image searches will use jpg/jpeg format with zero issue. On a phone it's a little more difficult as you'll need to find an appropriate app to do the same exact thing - crop her photo from the screenshot and save it as a separate image file.

Once you've gotten her image file cropped and ready, you can head over to www.tineye.com/ which is a very good reverse image search engine. You can also search under Google for "Reverse Image Search" and you'll get more sites that may give you a hit if Tineye doesn't produce any results.

For what it's worth, I don't actually condone snooping myself but I have worked with computers and in the IT field myself for my entire adult life so if you have any questions or if you need any further help - feel free to send me a private message and I'll try to help you out to the best of my abilities :) I'm sincerely sorry you're going through such a tough time right now. Flowers

ExceptionFatale · 14/11/2019 05:49

Bah! Sorry - the reverse image search engine I gave you the URL for was tinyeye dotcom. Or just search for tineye in Google. Or if you search for Reverse Image Search in Google, it's the first website in the list :) Sorry about that!

TimeThief · 14/11/2019 21:17

Thanks Exception! Sorry for the delay in responding. So I’d previously tried a reverse image search on Google Images but it hadn’t worked. Although I hadn’t cropped it so maybe that’s why. I’m working on an iPhone so not exactly sure how to crop it but will keep trying. Thanks again for your expertise x

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lifegoes · 14/11/2019 21:26

@Buster2997 Snapchat can show the date it was sent. If you log out and log back in it will update to the date it was read.

If you are wanting to check their contact history so to speak. Click on the persons picture. It will have their name and the top scroll down and it will have charms.

It will have one saying "been in touch" - this means recently. or "it's been awhile" over a month

TimeThief · 14/11/2019 23:28

Have tried cropping it a couple of different ways but still getting zero results on Tineye...

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lifegoes · 14/11/2019 23:42

You might not find it. If she doesn't use that picture on any of her social media.

You can try google app. By clicking on the photo next to the microphone (search bar) uploading picture (top right corner)

lifegoes · 14/11/2019 23:43

Where did you find her photo and number?

TimeThief · 14/11/2019 23:48

WhatsApp.

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glitterfarts · 15/11/2019 09:38

Do you have a local FB page? Can you search through the members there?
Does it have her name in WhatsApp? If not, he's not saved her as a contact, so could she therefore be a sex worker?

lifegoes · 15/11/2019 16:06

If it was his. What name did he have next to it. - just search that first name

heneverkeepshisword · 15/11/2019 16:21

Save her number and then she should come up as a suggestion on instagram!
Aslong as you have your contacts synced to your Instagram! Then she should come up that way

TimeThief · 15/11/2019 19:53

I don’t use Instagram. I got the number from a phone bill and added it as a contact which then automatically added her to my WhatsApp contacts. So that’s why I have a photo and a number but no name.

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lifegoes · 15/11/2019 20:06

How many calls etc.

Could you not put your phone on withhold number and call her. Just ask for the name

Muddledmind · 15/11/2019 20:56

I had this 6 weeks ago and took me a while to work out why facebook wasnt showing her as a suggested friend. Go to Friends on facebook and there is a pop up at the bottom that says Find your friends here. It basically refreshes your contact list so any new numbers you've added will come up.
Sorry you're going through this as well xx

GiveHerHellFromUs · 15/11/2019 21:05

What did he have her saved as?

Brazenhussy0 · 15/11/2019 22:17

Have you tried googling her phone number OP?

LuluBellaBlue · 15/11/2019 22:19

Have u tried just googling the mobile number? If she say works freelance or anything the number might show up

ExceptionFatale · 15/11/2019 22:25

Hey TimeThief, I'm sorry you were unable to get any results from the reverse image search. As a previous poster said, sometimes you don't get a hit if they haven't used that photo anywhere else. I have a little experience tracking people down - mainly people wanting to get in touch with old friends or old flames so I'm more than willing to help out as much as I can (without charging you for it like I normally do Grin).

If you've got a phone number, an idea of what her name is even if it's a nickname, and a general idea of the area she lives in helps but isn't necessary. Basically any information you DO have, her WhatsApp photo and name she uses on there etc. I'm in the US, but I'm willing to take some time and try and find out what I can for you. Obviously I know the information is sensitive so if you'd like my help just send me a private message on here.

People have given you some decent ideas as for adding her number to your contacts in your phone and seeing if her profile is suggested to you on Instagram. If you don't have or use Instagram just make one up - but I do suggest using a "burner" email account that isn't tied to your actual email for anything you sign up for while looking if you decide to try looking for her yourself. Gmail allows you to make as many emails as you'd like, I'm pretty sure most email services do nowadays but I'm partial to using Gmail myself as it's fairly simple to completely delete the account if you want to leave a minimal paper trail.

Regardless of whether or not you take me up on my offer, I wish you the best of luck, and I'm sending you good thoughts and hugs from California :)

whoopsffs · 15/11/2019 22:27

Adding the number in contacts will eventually bring up her profile on Facebook, even though searching for her number doesn't work.
Keep going to the people you May know or suggestions bit- it eventually comes up!

CuriouslyCuriously · 15/11/2019 22:39

Adding the number in contacts will eventually bring up her profile on Facebook, even though searching for her number doesn't work.
Keep going to the people you May know or suggestions bit- it eventually comes up!

Unless she doesn't use Facebook or other popular social media. Not everyone does!

3lovelykids · 16/11/2019 11:29

Try the reversee app for iphone. Its really easy to use x

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