I have been seeing a man who I have known for a few years for around 4 months now. We have both separated within the last year, both have DC with our respective STBX spouses.
Initially he chased me hard as I wasn't sure if I was ready to start dating. I eventually agreed after he suggested that we take things slowly and see how we go as we both carry emotional baggage.
When we are together we have a great time together. Conversation flows easily, we have a lot of shared interests and sexually we are very compatible. I'm in danger of becoming emotionally involved. I am however feeling confused about where the relationship is going.
We generally see each other once a week or thereabouts. Sometimes we might see each other twice in a week and others we go nearly two weeks without getting together depending on when we can both be child free.
I'm starting to feel a bit like a FWB. He now rarely messages me between when we see each other other. I usually have to initiate messages to arrange seeing him which I find odd after he chased me so much for the first few weeks and before we got together. If he messages me first then it will usually be with a a sexual innuendo. When we are together he is very affectionate towards me. He obviously enjoys my company. He constantly wants to stroke my hand or thigh in a non sexual way if we are having a quiet night watching TV. But his lack of initiating contact along with the sexual innuendos when he does contact me first is starting to make me feel like he's viewing me more as a FWB. I have brought up the lack of him initiating contact and he just says that he is in his busy period at work so doesn't check his phone constantly. I don't want to make a big fuss about it to him as I know I can be inclined to over react. Is he using me as FWB without telling me that is what he has relegated me to or is he doing what he said about taking things slowly? I'm confused!