Nativity

[PoshBagLady]

Was going to post in AIBU but don’t think I could stomach that! DS came home from school today with a sheet of paper with all the kids’ lines for the Nativity Play. AIBU in feeling the rage that he has literally one line - if you could call it that? I feel so angry and upset on his behalf because he can clearly see who has the really meaty parts/lines and he has a line that if you blinked you’d miss at the very bottom of the page.

I’m not a pushy mum in any way and I’m not a parent who’s always up at the school, so this is not usually how I would react.

I really want to talk to his teacher to understand how these decisions are made. My DS is probably sitting somewhere in the middle in terms of ability and his reading is fine so I just don’t get it. The same last year but I didn’t say anything then.

Would I come across as a neurotic parent if I ask about this?

I’m a single parent and it’s times like these I miss having a SO or family who could talk me down so I’m turning to you lovely mumsnetters to talk me down instead

fartingrainbows (great name 😀) that’s fantastic, well done to DH and DS. Sometimes being a little bit pushy pays off. Great result.

Thanks! She's so excited that she's still awake Will make the after school meltdown even worse! I hope she does get a part, she's got her heart set on it.

I’m hoping this is her big year loutypouts! We can say it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme but your poor little DD💕 thinking about you xxx

My DD (P7 so this will be her last school Christmas play) informed me tonight that she's auditioned for the role of "Pushy Parent". She also told me who she drew inspiration from - and it's not me (phew).

Well, one year ds was a shepherd (one shepherd for every sheep, so HERDS of shepherds, as well as sheep). And every shepherd needed to wear a suitable shepherd's costume of a 'shepherd's waistcoat, while the sheep merely needed some cotton wool...
The sheep went baa, the shepherds said nothing BUT guess who was roped in to making all the bleedin shepherds costumes, like, 15 of them?

Somewhere I've still got the photo of 15 cotton wool sheep in front of 15 shepherds
The next year same ds was Joseph - only one costume - a doddle

(posted too soon)...fingers crossed, loutypouts for tomorrow

OP, why not just relax, enjoy the performance, and be delighted that your school is actually even doing a Nativity at all these days? So many places now seem to think it’s somehow offensive to celebrate the birth of Christ.
My own DDs had various roles over the years, from angels to Herod (yes, really!) in our church Nativity service. One year they had a full scale fight with the shepherds in the middle of the performance, and the minister had to pull them apart!
But it’s all part of the joy of Christmas. None of the kids are up for an Oscar, and it’s not a competition- it’s a wonderful, emotional re-enactment of God’s loving gift to the world of His own self, the Word made flesh in Christ.
Feel the magic, the mystery, and the love of that moment. Whatever role your own child plays.
Happy Christmas, OP.