Can it ever be normal to fantasise about...

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...my husband running off with another woman?

...meeting the most perfect lovely woman who would make an ideal second wife for my husband?

...having my own house?

...what my next and final wedding dress might look like and even having a Pinterest board for it?

I’m married with two children. I have a good life. My husband is good looking, solvent and intelligent. Women would probably be lining up to date him. Can it be normal to fantasise about these things?

I suppose it depends how often you fantasise about it...I occasionally wonder what it would be like to be single, or what my life would be like if it had worked out with an ex, but it isn't constant. I don't fantasise about DH running off with someone else though, just thinking about that makes me feel sick.

Yes, if you like the idea off sharing your husband or you don't want to be the one who broke the marriage, whilst wanting to divorce him.

Do you really want rid of him, or do you just have time on your hands?

I think about it most days.

If he told me that he had fallen in love with someone else I would be happy for him. I wouldn’t feel sad.

I don’t have time on my hands.

Do you love your husband?

Are you poly?

Given that the human mind can imagine an infinite number of possibilities and people can find pleasure is some quite amazing things, I would say that fantasising about anything is "normal" (whatever that may mean.

Acting on those fantasies is a whole different matter.

Do you love your husband?
I don’t know. I’m confused.

Are you poly?
No. The complete opposite.

Acting on those fantasies is a whole different matter.
I don’t seem able to act on them.

Hummmm. The thought of my partner even looking at another woman really upsets me,I love him so much which is why I asked. Maybe you want something different/more.

I think it’s uncommon and your gut instinct is telling you something. Maybe you’re just bored though and can find a less drastic outlet than leaving him (unless you’re sure that’s what you really want and won’t regret).

I’m married with two children. I have a good life. My husband is good looking, solvent and intelligent. Women would probably be lining up to date him. Can it be normal to fantasise about these things?

This is very factual. Do you love him? Do you have any emotions towards him? Did you ever?

I used to fantasise about my exh having a fatal car crash on his way home from work. You only have 1 life op.
Don't waste it.

It sounds like you feel trapped and these are fantasies about an end/escape to your current life.

When I was with my ex, I used to think 'When he dies...' and imagine all the things I'd do afterwards!

I think you're feeling trapped for some reason and hoping to somehow be free.

I fantasize about all these exact same things too. My OH got friendly with a nice woman from his work a few years ago and I thought how nice it would be if they both went off to live in her house!

I've done this daily since beginning 2017 and finally left him in September this year.
My gut was definitely telling me something was missing and I'm so confident in my decision now!
Yes as other said I've felt very trapped in my marriage and now I can only compare myself to the genie in alladdin about to be set free

Those of you who split with their partners, do you have children?

This is very factual. Do you love him?
I’m not sure. I don’t know what love is anymore.

Do you have any emotions towards him?
I don’t want to hurt him or anger him. My children love their Dad.

Did you ever?
Not in the same way that I loved my ex but he treated me poorly and this seemed like a more balanced relationship so I thought it was normal to feel less butterflies, etc. I was never infatuated with him.

Sounds like perhaps he was your safe choice... how long have you felt this way? This could be just a phase, or if you've felt it a long time you need to analyse your relationship and whether it really works for you.

I used to hope my ex meets a nice woman and falls in love with her every time he went out without me. It was because I didn't love him anymore and did not want a future with him, but I still wanted him to be happy. Eventually I broke up with him and despite that being horrible I still felt relieved after. We didn't have kids though.

I’ve felt this way for about 18 months.

We have almost broken up about 3-4 times over the years but right at the last minute I have a panic and stop it from happening.

I had a friend who felt this . Just because she did not want to be responsible for breaking up the marriage . He did meet someone and has been really happy ever since. She on the other hand has not had a happy life and met a loser and is now single. Not sure if she regrets pushing him away .