I'll start by saying I've never been keen on dp friend due to his history (he's not a good person - been put away a number of times for burgulary) Dp knows I don't want anything to do with him or have him near our home and family so he meets him elsewhere which I'm not thrilled about but he's his own person and I can't stop him. On valentines day last year I saw him lurking on my street as I was coming back from the supermarket. When I got to my doorstep a valentines card had been left with dp name on. Dp opened it and had a laugh as it was from the friend which I also found quite funny as a lads sort of joke.
Anyway just recently I went on a night out with some friends and when I came home a glittery pink lighter had been left in my kitchen. I asked Dp and he said the only person he'd had round was the friend. None of us smoke. The friend does. Obviously I was annoyed as we'd agreed not to have him in the house but I let it go.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and dp came home from meeting the friend and I noticed my brolly that I'd previously been looking for tucked in the side pocket of dp rucksack. He said the friend had brought it out and didn't want to use it due to 'embarrassment'
Before anyone says he might be cheating he's definitely not but I think the friend is trying to make it look that way. Dp works allot and whenever he's off the friend rings multiple times wanting to hang out when my dp has already said he was having a family day.
Maybe I'm just being paranoid.
What would you think?
His friend has his own family.