DH has a 3 month affair with a work colleague which started at the work Xmas party last December. He didn’t know the OW until that night and took her back to his hotel room after knowing her for 3 hours. Then meet up with her on three further nights. Ive given him another chance, we are trying to make things work, he has changed and grown up, it’s like a new relationship but.... I don’t trust him yet.
One big issue is this years work xmas party. Months ago when I first decided to stay with him he promised he would never go to another Xmas party at this company. Note- he has been for drinks and a couple of Nights out with friends the last few months (getting easier, but I do still think about what he could be getting up to) and it’s not like I want to control what he does etc. But he mentioned his week about going to the “start” of the Xmas party and coming home early. I’m so upset about this, the date is the same as last year and will be hard enough for me to think about without him actually being at the party again (same date, same bar, same people- although she no longer works there so it’s no about that). It’s just so hurtful that he would think it’s ok to suggest that to me. I’ve not gone to my Xmas party many times due to clashes with his work/ no childcare etc, it’s not a big deal. Or am I being unreasonable and should just get over the party issue? It’s just this particular party not any other parties/events. It’s the memories and pain it brings me to even think about it.