Sorry in advance for the long post. But feel so miserable lately and feeling fed up of my lazy husband. I just need to vent.
We’ve been together 4 years married for 1 we’ve got a 3 year old little boy. And I’m 36.5 weeks with our baby girl. As time goes on I’m getting increasingly fed up of his lazy behaviour. Yes I’ve talked to him about it on multiple occasions and it usually causes an argument. He pulls the work card and nothing ever changes. He works 5 on 5 off and the days he’s off work he lazes about on his phone with the TV on in the background.
I’m a stay at home mum and put college and getting a job on hold to have our son who id like to add is very high energy! And has been really hard work as of lately. I don’t ask much from him at all. Only that he puts his dirty clothes in the washing basket instead of dumping them on the bedroom floor. Same with wet towels (He does the same with clean clothes then has a go if I’ve washed them because I’ve assumed they’re dirty) I ask him politely to wash his plate after eating just to take the load off me. (1 plate!) I’ve once left the dishes for 2 days to see if he’d do them he never did. He won’t put the cleaner around unless I ask. Even then he huffs like a child. I’ve really struggled with pelvic pain with this pregnancy and it seems even asking him to carry the washing basket upstairs for me is a task. Before I was gifted a pregnancy pillow I was getting maybe 4 hours a sleep a night. He’d sleep all night then bugger off for a nap during the day. Leaving me to chase our 3 year old around.
He waits until after I clean to cook something (for himself) never Cooks for me and our son if I ask him to put food on for our son he huffs about that too. Sorry if this sounds petty. I’ve got to nag to ask him to put the the rubbish and recycling out. His excuse is that he forgets. I’ve always said if something needs doing around the house just do it don’t wait for me to “nag”
We had a huge argument the other morning because on his days off he gets up with our son but he sits him on the tablet all morning and it drives me mad. And I said if he carries on im banning it. Because he now throws tantrums when it’s taken off him. I try to get extra sleep on those days he’s off but our son ends up waking me up anyway. I was feeling pretty upset that morning and he hit a nerve. He made me cry and said if he had the money he’d divorce me because I’m a nag. He never apologised for that and now acts like he never said anything.
He spends all our spare cash on alcohol leaving us completely broke some weeks. Yes I’ve spoken to him about it his words were I work my balls off I deserve it. He drinks nearly every night that he hasn’t got work (also in debt with our council tax) then has the cheek to complain if we are low on food or out of bread, milk etc... the last 2 weeks of every month his wages go on rent so we live off our tax credits and on the last week of every month it’s really tight. So after putting gas and leccy on there’s just about enough for a food shop he decided to buy an Xbox game off a friend leaving us with £12 to get essentials and had the cheek to ask me if he could get 2 cans of cider and sulked when I said no. If he’d had them I wouldn’t have been able to get juice and biscuits for our son. Which he likes to have in the morning when he gets up.
Last night I asked him if he wanted to bath after me. He said yes. He comes up right after having dinner for a shave practically kicking me out the bath I’d only had a 10 minute soak. Our son had been hard work that night too. I was struggling to get out the bath and he didn’t bother helping me out and said he believes in equality when I sarcastically said (thanks for watching me struggle) when trying to pick my pyjamas up. I went in to check on our son who had taken his pull up off after throwing a tantrum, wet the bed and fallen asleep. So I had to wake him up, clean the mattress, change his pyjamas change the bedding and read him another 2 books all while he relaxed. It’s not easy to change a cabin bed at 9 months pregnant. I then put washing on before getting in to bed while he says to me that bath was nice on my aching feet. After I had just done my back in changing our sons bed!
Am I right in thinking he’s taking me for granted ? Or am I just being petty an hormonal ? Feel really down in the dumps today. Nothing ever changes he’s in work at the moment. Some days I feel like walking out