My friend has been seeing a single dad with teenage kids. He's a v devoted dad, which she (and all of our friendship group) thought was a great thing.
She has tried to integrate with his kids and show an interest but is aware of giving it time/taking it easy. In relationship just over a year.
One of his sons was recently due some important exam results, friends dp was tense the day before and she tried to reassure him and discussed the subject more than once, saying he was likely to get what he needed but if he didn't he could do a,b, or c and reapply next year.
The same day they were involved in a water based activity with her DPS relatives and after she returned home she mentioned by text what a lovely day it had been, how much she'd enjoyed the activity, how great/convenient his relatives small boat was and how it would be wonderful if they had the opportunity to do similar again sometime before winter truly hit ...
She was shocked to receive a reply from him. along the lines of "why are you going on about x's boat etc etc, with my son's results out tomorrow .. do you think.im interested in that ... Do you even care about my son's results, do you even want to be part of this family?".
My friend was thrown, upset, doesn't know if she's in the wrong etc. She phoned me at the time upset and wanting an outside opinion.
The next day incidentally his son's results were received, were fine for entrance, and he'd DPS mood was happy, relaxed, he was busy telling everyone about it and had totally glossed over his remarks.
The only thing she has said otherwise I'd that he describes himself as "fiery" but harmless/" no harm in it) and she finds him quite sparky at times.
I thought it was a bad sign and said so, bit she seems to feel like he had a point and is going along with sweeping it under the carpet (at this time anyway).
I don't think she should - AIBU?