huge crush whilst in relationship

[cornflakes54]

Im 25 and been with my boyfreind 7 years ( no children or marriage) not wanting kids as of yet... anyway we have had various problems and are now working through them, the problem is during our months of arguments i developed a huge crush on a man at work, he is single also and has also started messaging me through facebook we are just general chit chat harmless meme sending ect.... the problem is i feel quilty fancing someone else other than my partner, this guy at work is every thing/ look wise i think this is whats troubeing me and i cant get him out my mind! i woudnt act on it, and am just wondering if its normal??
anyone else had the same thing??

i do also think i need to stop messaging him as this is just fueling it all further....
thank you X

Dump your current boyfriend and see what happens with your crush. Regardless of if anything happens with the crush the actual crush and attraction to another man tells you everything about your current situation. You are 25 and still young - you’ve been with your current boyfriend since you were 18? People change. I was definitely a different person from 18 compared to 25. I was in the same situation as you (sounds like a re-tell of my earlier life) went for the crush - crush didn’t work out, had 2 years of proper fun (some man related, some just getting out there and partying. No man stress and loved it). Found a man after the 2yrs who I couldn’t be without. Knew by that stage what I wanted and didn’t want from a relationship. Do it go go go

We're just bumping this for you, OP, in the hope that someone else with useful advice will be along soon.

Best of luck.

I agree with the previous comment. At 25 you are young. You should not feel pressured to commit, you need to experience more relationships before you even know who you are and who you want to be with.

But, be truthful. End your current relationship then you are free to explore new ones.

If this work guy ticks more boxes than your current partner, you should explore it.
You’ve been with your current guy since you were 18 so it’s probably all you’ve ever known. If you’re starting to fall for someone else, this is is a sign that you need to keep exploring and not tie yourself down, you’re so young.
Don’t have kids with him FFS.

Are things moving fast with the work guy? I.e. getting closer etc

It's probably a sign your current relationship isn't working for you anymore - not that the work man is the one for you either. Work relationships are really easy to fall into because of all the time spend together - but they can crash and burn just as easily - and then you are stuck working with them and it's weird.