How do you think new partners view your post baby body? Mens answers very welcome!!

[Louise000000]

I'm slim and I am always told I look good for having had 3 kids, I've worked hard for it over the years. But.....what about getting naked with a new partner? What do they think about a stretch marked stomach (deflated balloon in my case) and boobs that have well and truly been used (breastfed all 3 for 2 years each!! Let's imagine a pair of nipples attached to a ribcage here!!)
Do men mind things like this? Are they just glad to getting action?
Share your experiences! ! X

If a man judges your body badly because you made a human in it, and fed said human from it, he can go and fuck himself instead. You're a miracle!

Depends one what men you're interested in. Younger men would definitely prefer women with tighter, fitter bodies and perky breasts. Older men are more flexible.

When I first split with my exh I was very paranoid about my body, had 2 babies in very quick succession. One thing I've learnt since then is that most men love women to be soft, so have a tummy, wobbly bum and boobs. Don't get me wrong they are men who like a toned body, but generally men love some squidge

My DP is my ex from before pregnancy and childbirth. So, he knew me as a fit slim 25 year old and remet me as a nearly 50 year old with post baby body. He is more appreciative of my body now.

I was very self-conscious when I met my now-husband. After 3 babies I thought I was a bit of a letdown. He thinks I'm beautiful and nearly 20 years and 1 c-section later he still does. He is genuinely just very happy to have this naked woman next to him. It's done wonders for my self-confidence.

I told my boyfriend I was worried about him not liking my wobbly bits. His reply was “don’t be daft, I’ve got wobbly bits too”. I’ve never looked back.

I think it depends on the man. Some are superficial or perhaps only ever seen women who never had kids!

I was thinking, as I sit here 8 months pregnant with my third, that my body gets more ruined with each one! :( I used to have beautiful breasts, but they get so HUGE with each pregnancy, that after, they sag. I noticed a couple stretch marks on my belly, when first time around I got nothing. I always get huge all around with each pregnancy...but thankfully, I tend to lose all the baby weight after (slowly!).

As an ex of mine said the last thing he will be thinking about is my scar when he is in that zone

@bbbabylon that is unacceptable please get rid of him!!
I'm worried about someone who maybe expects me to be toned as I'm slim build then is disappointed to find I'm not under clothes, and mild disappointment maybe....bullying you because of your body is simply not on and is abuse. What a Dick! That's really annoyed me there lol you can do better!!

Oh you guys are building my confidence here I'm getting out there to put this to the test
About the vagina, I asked my dh did I feel tight enough and he said yes but I know it's definitely a buy looser as I was mega tight before as in needed loads of foreplay, now it goes in any time foreplay or not!!
But that could also be an age thing as that he babies are literally stretching it for a few mins each time and it is a muscle!

Obviously I'm going to meet somone with a massive willy though right?

@flamingnora123
Spot on!

@BBBabylon

Christ get rid of that twat please. And until you do, any time he dares to comment on your weight, make fun of his dick (I'm assuming it's small as are his balls from his lack of being a proper man), make fun of his bald spot, his massive belly, whatever is wrong with him. How dare he bully you about your weight. Does he think he is some Brad pitt that can get a model? He can go fuck off then and get the tiny model he so apparently deserves. And when he comes crawling back after being repeatedly rejected, you can slam the door in his face.

I haven't had children yet op, but I'm fairly sure my partner would still be groping me as often as he does now if and/or when I have kids. Most men (unlike twat features mentioned above) do not care about how a woman looks naked, they find them attractive either way.

Do you think a pre warning is a good idea Eg 'this is the first time I'm being naked with someone else since I've had my babies'
Or just go for it? I'm fairly confident in sex anyway which most are saying is the key which is good!

Might be a good idea if you think it will help.

I gave my current partner a pre warning, because I had been abused by my ex. I warned him when I realised I wasn't handling it well and he took it great and helped me through it.

Goodness only know what anyone would think of me! I've worked hard to stay thin after two kids but I have c sec scar and I had to have a mastectomy last year as well - I am happy with the shape of my body now I've lost baby weight but I reckon anyone else might think it looks like a car crash with no clothes on!

It's funny cos if I was commenting on someone else's post I would be like embrace your post baby body, be proud, be confident and any decent man will not even notice etc etc
It's hard taking your own advice though isn't it!! I will update my experience when the time comes........

I'm sure just as many men feel self-conscious about their bodies and they don't even have the excuse that they've been through pregnancy, childbirth breastfeeding!

It's all down to preferences. Men prefer women in different sizes. Personally, I prefer a man bod rather than a highly toned one. For me, there's nothing finer than a squishy stomach!
I wouldn't suggest saying anything when you first get naked. Go with a "You're so lucky to be seeing me naked" attitude. Men prefer confidence.

@BBBabylon your husband is an arsehole. Fuck him off. Trust me, you will be so much happier.

The answer to this is the quality of the men you are intimate with, not the quality of your body.
I’m 60, and have been with DH over 40 years. I’m a couple of stones (and more) overweight and have birthed and breastfed 2 DCs. But DH still tells me he loves my body.
Love and respect. Don’t put up with anything less.

Such positivity here, hope everyone is taking their own advice too cos there's some valuable stuff here!!