How do you think new partners view your post baby body? Mens answers very welcome!!

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I'm slim and I am always told I look good for having had 3 kids, I've worked hard for it over the years. But.....what about getting naked with a new partner? What do they think about a stretch marked stomach (deflated balloon in my case) and boobs that have well and truly been used (breastfed all 3 for 2 years each!! Let's imagine a pair of nipples attached to a ribcage here!!)
Do men mind things like this? Are they just glad to getting action?
Share your experiences! ! X

Quite a few men like a bit of sag in the breast area as they move more... 🤐

I wonder if they’d feel the same about my saggy knees...

I would never find out. If I am no longer with my husband anymore for whatever reason I'll be happy to just be alone with only me and the kids to think about. That's not something that's on the cards at the moment but if it was to ever happen, I don't need to find another man to enjoy life, life would be more simple not to.

PS also weirdly some don’t even see the stretch marks. Just not that observant.

DH loved my body before and after. I was quite lucky in that I didn't put much weight on, and although basically slim I've always had a tummy, which got slightly 'worse' post 2 kids, but it was never my best bit anyway!

I've always been pretty confident about being naked - my philosophy is that a naked woman always makes a (heterosexual) man happy, he couldn't care less about some wobbly bits!

The scars of pregnancy, miscarriage and childbirth are very proud battle scars etched on women's bodies. Any man unable to appreciate these can sculk away in shame and wonder what they have to offer in the same terms.

I agree it's the connection and the attraction that is sexy and then you find sexy things in them.
My dh has a perfect physique and peach bum etc but not fancied him in years!

@absolom I'm with you there I'm not ready for any kind of new relationship and I'm happy just me and kids. However a fwb situation would do me nicely as I do have a high sex drive!!

I can cope with my boobs lying down and upright, but bending over...forget it! ! I've got a hollow boob on the side lol !!

Just asking DH, who I met 5 years after ex-h left while I was pregnant with DC3 'What did you think when you saw my body for the first time, bearing in mind the damage inflicted by growing, delivering and breastfeeding 3 babies?'

His response...a little chuckle at the words 'damage inflicted' then 'excited, is how I felt...I had fallen in love with your mind and therefore lusted after your body. It's not like you were put off by my moobs, is it?'

He would like to point out that confidence and enthusiasm are what generally turns men on.

I suspect a man will think, thank fuck i cant get pregnant and them crack on!!

I used to worry horribly about what a new man would think of my post-childbearing body. Then I realised the men I slept with were less than perfect themselves but simply didn't give a shit. They were literally not self conscious at all. I thought 'that's not fair'. So, since then, I don't give a shit about what a man thinks of my body. I've grown two human beings and I'm proud of it. What's your excuse? This is how I am and you can take it or leave it.

I am very self conscious of my stomach, as pp have mentioned I too have the c section over hang. My dh tells me he loves my body because of the 2 dc it has given us.

It doesn’t stop DP chasing me around the bedroom so I think he rather likes my post-baby body. I’m definitely not as slim as before, I was tiny pre-baby and now I’m a few pounds heavier but look better for it. DP has actually remarked that he didn’t like me straight up and down before when I was twig-like.

However a fwb situation would do me nicely as I do have a high sex drive!!

I think that drives my decision really. I could never have sex for the rest of my life and be fine! I don't need it but I acknowledge others do.

I have 4 kids, I am 40 and 2 weeks ago I married the man who came after the father of my children. My ex was not attracted to me and I did have a minor crisis of confidence. My husband sees me as lovely - if I mention my big bottom, he will counter it with his view of it as a shapely, womanly bum. If I allude to my child bearing hips, he will tell me that my curves are sexy. I have the apron, the cellulite and the stretch marks but with him I feel beautiful. I am quite sure that any worthwhile man lucky enough to be intimate with you will see you the same way.

I suspect you're overestimating how 'perfect' the bodies of most women your age who haven't had children are. I suspect you're comparing it to your own body pre-DC and assuming it would still look like that if you hadn't had them - but three kids is presumably some time ago! I suspect that assuming your body will be a lot less surprising to the men you encounter than you think and that it won't be the first time they encounter some sagging and some stretch marks even if you are the first mother they've slept with.

It’s good to read the replies here. My husband bullies me daily about my weight. He’s done it for as long as I can remember. After 3 pregnancies, I am 2 dress sizes bigger than when we met. He hasn’t touched me in 2 years (since I started to look pregnant with our last baby), yet tells me that he wants me to look the same as before I first got pregnant. I feel awful awful and sad. I hope one day I’ll look nice to someone else. This post gives me hope about that and also, makes me realise it isn’t normal the stuff he says

I was with my STBXH for 11 years, separated a year ago. I'm now a 41 year old mum of two complete with c-section scar and apron and cellulite with empty sock boobs. Before kids I was size 8 with a six pack and wonderfully pert 32B's. After I split from my H my self esteem was on the floor and I was convinced no man would find me attractive again. I have recently started seeing someone I've known for 5 years as a bit more than FWB. We are at early stages and taking dating slowly but both have high sex drives. I was petrified before getting naked in front of him first go but we have an amazing sexual chemistry. He is always telling me how sexy I am, how he can't keep his hands off me, can't get enough of me, how he fantasies about me when he isn't with me. He loves my boobs and bum. He makes me feel better about my pregnancy scarred body now than my H did before kids when I actually did have a good figure. I think if there is the right chemistry between you then he will want you just as you are.

I got together with my now DH when DS1 was 2, I was still breastfeeding him.

He didn't seem to notice or care - of course he knew I had a child. I think he said he'd been with someone else who already had a child before and so it wasn't surprising to him at all. He was a bit surprised by the breastfeeding but most people are if your child is 2. It wasn't a huge problem.

Also contrary to what some fuckwit men may say, vaginas are not like jumper necks and they don't stretch out. Just in case you were worried about that.

What @LisaSimpsonsbff said.

I've got 2 DC's and was voicing body concerns to a friend of the same age with none. Turns out her belly is a bit saggy now where it wasn't before and her boobs not as pert. Probably sounds ridiculous but I had no idea that the same would happen with age anyway. So probably won't come as a surprise to some men irrespective of their past!

I have 3 babies and am in good shape but have mum-tum. DP who has muscles and a six pack and who isn’t Daddy to all babies, sleeps with his hands on my tummy. He likes it. Not all men like the same, just as not all women like the same thing. One man may run, another will love you as you are x

I'll take this as a time I can say man here, without being mansplainy. Looks are nice and all, but attitude is far more important. And really, a bit of a tummy and boobs that don't point at the ceiling are barely going to register if you're at the naked stage.

I think you're kind of assuming men are a different species and think loads differently to women. I dont think they're that different. Yes they are a bit more visual than women but plenty of men are attracted to / have sex with/ have affairs with women without perfect bodies.

My DP thinks I'm sexier then ever since having his two children, I however don't !

I'm about to have my third baby so currently look like a hippo, but was in great shape after the birth of my other two children. I would have been reasonably content for anyone to see me naked but it's my vagina that bothers me. TMI but it's functional but not exactly pretty after two births and quite 'gapey' so I expect not as snug as before. I'm dreading what a third birth will do.

My DH adores me and knows my body made his children so wouldn't say a bad word about it, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with a theoretical new partner.