I'm with my partner for nearly three years. I didn't see his poor oral health cleaning routine at first. He comes around and stays overnight with me about twice a week. Sometimes I notice some stains on the pillowcase but they were only ever light stains. In the beginning of our relationship, I think he brushed his teeth at night. Now though, I don't think he does. He goes to the bathroom but he doesn't take the toothbrush from my bedside table. I change his toothbrush monthly or every 6 weeks.
I don't know what he does when he is at home. He is a good person. He does a lot to help his aging parents and he works hard in a bar. He works odd shifts. Some times late nights, other times day shifts, other times he works night shift followed by a morning and day shift. So, I could see how his work would impact on his Orla health care. He is probably too wrecked and tired and exhausted to brush his teeth.
Another issue I have with him not brushing his teeth at night, is, I don't think he spends long enough brushing his teeth in the morning.
All this came to a head the other morning. We woke up and there was a quite large and substantial blood stain on the pillowcase. It was huge. He pointed it out first and apologised. I said not to worry, that will come out easily in the was but I was alarmed. I asked we're his gums sore? He said it's just soft gums.
He's not looking after his oral health at all. This worries me.
I don't have great teeth myself but I do my best to look after them. I brush 2/3 times a day. I use mouthwash in between brushing. I floss (not every night). I have a water flosser. I'm doing the best I can for my teeth and mouth.