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Would you go on a first date if your roots needed doing??

24 replies

Enigma85 · 29/10/2019 14:42

So I have planned a first date with someone from a dating site that i'm really excited for. BUT, I had decided to grow out the bleach from my hair and I have about 1-2 inches of roots and now I'm panicking and wondering if I should get my hair done before I meet him? What would you do?

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BuffaloCauliflower · 29/10/2019 14:43

If you want to grow it out why would you dye it for one date that might end up being crap?!

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 29/10/2019 14:46

If he's likely to be put off by that, he's not worth it!

something2say · 29/10/2019 14:47

Definitely go. Silly not to.

PositiveVibez · 29/10/2019 14:47

I hate having my grey roots showing and always feel better when they're done. Can you use some of that root spray stuff?

SugarMiceInTheRain · 29/10/2019 14:47

You can get those root sprays that wash out if you're that worried about it, however as a pp said, if a couple of inches of roots puts him off, he's not worth a second date!

gamerchick · 29/10/2019 14:48

Nah I just use those touch up sprays that wash out.

Don't know if there is a blond one though.

No I wouldn't get my hair done, I doubt blokes notice shit like that.

EpcotForever · 29/10/2019 14:49

Wouldn't be ideal but if you are trying to grow it out I wouldn't dye it. Try to style it nicely so it still looks cared for.

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Enigma85 · 29/10/2019 14:50

Thanks everyone! Already feel loads better. Just had a moment of self doubt (confidence thing I guess!)

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MapMyMum · 29/10/2019 14:50

If a guy was superficial enough to not want a second date based just on that then Id rather not have another date either.

If you feel more comfortable, is there a hairstyle that makes the roots less obvious?

Ronnie27 · 29/10/2019 14:53

Haha I’m at your exact stage now! Have grown blonde highlights into a really nice ombré effect previously so I know it’s worth it but I’m currently about another two inches away!

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Enigma85 · 29/10/2019 15:02

Thankfully roots have become more acceptable since ombre :D but I stupidly googled if it was acceptable and read a few articles telling me that it absolutely was not ok to go on a date with roots! I knew I shouldn't have googled it. My natural hair is that dirty dishwater colour anyway so the roots aren't that dark, i'll just pick a pub with bright lights so the dark doesn't notice as much!

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Klouise777 · 29/10/2019 15:06

If someone is not interested in you because of your roots then they ain't worth any of your time anyway!! Go!! Have a fab time and good luck x

user1471504234 · 29/10/2019 15:34

I am a big believer in not making any extra special effort for first/second dates! If they don’t like the normal you then what’s the point? It seems to be a reasonable strategy for me and I’ve yet to knowingly have put someone off by wearing makeup I’ve had on all day or roots that need doing! As long as you are clean and tidy then that’s the main thing!

Joy69 · 29/10/2019 16:12

I purposely chose a first date (swimming) where I didn't wear make up, bar abit of mascara & obviously a swimsuit. Worked on the theory that if they didn't like the real me I'd find out on the first date. All a bit nerve wracking, but we're still together 2.5 months in. I think sometimes the real you is a massive turn on for some men, they don't always find a perfection made from makeup etc attractive. X

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Enigma85 · 29/10/2019 16:34

Wow Joy69 I have massive respect for you doing that! I'd never be brave enough but you're all totally right - I had definitely thought if he is the kind of guy that hates hair regrowth then at some point he'd be disappointed with me anyway. This'll be the first date after a relationship I thought was going to last for the long haul so I'm probably over thinking it. Pretty disappointed to be re-entering the dating world and having to think about all this stuff again!

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roses2 · 29/10/2019 16:46

Can you wear a hat?? It’s cold anyhow!

Coloured roots are ok but I would go out on a first date with grey roots

roses2 · 29/10/2019 16:46

wouldnt go out with grey roots

managedmis · 29/10/2019 16:48

Could you put it up?

ScreamingCosArgosHaveNoRavens · 29/10/2019 16:49

Another vote for root spray.

aatwi · 29/10/2019 17:20

I would.

Bet he wouldn't even notice!

AliciaQuays · 29/10/2019 17:22

He won’t be looking at your roots baby

lucybwn · 29/10/2019 17:49

I went on a first date last week and my roots need doing terribly! However, he told me he found me really attractive and we're seeing each other again this weekend. Mind you, he was bald so maybe he didn't feel like it was right to comment on my hair 😂 Have a fantastic time! 😊

Nc77 · 29/10/2019 18:02

Blow dry your hair but dry it with a lot of volume and backcomb it so the hair isn’t flat to your head and thus more noticeable

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