Posted about this before. Ex moved in with new girlfriend and since has escalated the abuse towards me, refusing to drop DC back, I must travel, I’m a that, I’m a that and his favourite old trope I’m crazy.
Name calling - vicious name calling, and now he’s threatened to go to social services.
He contributes zero financially and is still disputing he needs to pay maintenance and contests it with the CMS. On reason he’s abusive and he was furious I dared apply in the first place.
Trying to get a contact order formalised but he keep changing the goal post. One of the results of the new girlfriend is she is dictating where and when contact is ‘allowed’ to take place. Whilst amusing he is doing as he is told, it’s also a little disturbing she thinks this is acceptable. She has no DC of her own, so I am of the option that this escalating situation between her boyfriend and I, really is something she needs to stay out of. The narrative he will have created however will mean she can’t of course. So it’s already a mess.
He was incredibly abusive during our relationship and his threats of social services will only escalate the matter in court as there is so Much evidence against him including his alcohol abusive. He’s no risk to the D.C. beyond how he treats me and always has done. Even in front of them. Having said that if I was to fill in a court order form then leagally and morally the boxes I would have to check would turn this matter into a very ugly and messy situation and I don’t want to put myself and the DC through that.
I am struggling to deal with the stress of his constant tirade of bullying and all of it to be honest. I’ve a high pressured full time job and am hardly on top of the housework. (I have to have absolute organisation) so it’s a little bit of a tricky situation.
I want him to stop absuiving me and then accusing me of being abusive as a start.