How do I tell my parents I'm back with my ex?

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So long story short, I'm pregnant and a few weeks afterwards my ex-boyfriend left me due to issues in our relationship (not cheating or anything like that - we never even argued! More boundaries). However the next few weeks were hard due to him ignoring me and me coming to terms with the fact I was going to be a single mother.

My parents were super supportive, I am really close with them. However, over the past two weeks I have rekindled things with my ex, we've been spending time together and he is much more positive about the pregnancy and as I've spent quite a lot of time without him I have become a lot more independent, which I wasn't before.

We've decided to give things another go but are keeping it under wraps - his parents aren't fond of me, and of course after everything that happened my parents will not be happy about us getting back together.

Obviously it's not just any 'ex', he's my baby's dad and I really do want to give things another go.

I'm going to have to tell my parents at some stage though, and my mum is my best friend, I don't have secrets from her so I'm not sure I'll be able to hold out for long.

How do I sit them down and tell them, and not end up in an argument with them?

Why do his parents not like you OP? What's the issue there?

Also, why did the relationship end?

I would be honest with your parents but tell them that you still want their support, but you are doing this for the sake of your child and hope that things will change. If however you feel that nothing will change you will end the relationship, you just want to give it one more chance.

Well you can't make your parents overlook the fact that he cut you off and just left you to the pregnancy. That is no small thing. A cad. My father would have said. A fickle cad. He's going and he's coming and he hurt you went he went.

Your parents dont want to see you offer yourself up for another round.

You can’t blame your parents for being upset when you break it to them. They love you - of course they’ll be worried for you going back into what sounds like a volatile relationship.

Your multiple threads tell how this immature, manipulative man has repeatedly lured you and then ghosted you during your pregnancy. He has brought you so much torment. He lives with his mother, who has publicly mistreated you. You have commented that he is greatly influenced by her. They both wanted you to abort.

OP, he cut you off, blocked, and left you to go it alone. He has treated you and the baby with utter contempt. Your mental health will suffer if you continue with this unreliable loser. He will leave you in the lurch again.

Please protect your little one from this toxicity. You previously mentioned moving closer to your loving, supportive family. You and baby deserve that stability.

You have endless threads about this man. He is not going to be who you want him to be. Stop holding out for this family, it isn’t going to happen. If he wanted to be a family he would be there 100% but instead he’s pissing you around, ghosting you and popping in and out of your life when he needs a shag.

You don’t...... you re think your decision and have a bit of self respect and think about that poor baby coming into this mess with a toxic MIL and crap partner who has shown himself who he is. This is your babies future and I would be prioritising moving close to mum and dad . They will be heartbroken that you want to get back with this man

I've seen all your threads about this man too. No your parents won't approve, because you are doing the wrong thing. By your baby and by you. Because they'll worry about you. . He left you when you were pregnant, when you were most vulnerable. Look at what his actions not his words. He left you. he blocked you. He's ghosted you, come and gone as he pleased. He's treated you so badly. In fact he's shown you exactly who he is - why can't you take note and slow down. Have some self respect. and if you can't do that, put the baby first. Think about the baby and don't subject him or her to this man and his whims.

Don't subject this baby to this life. That would be selfish. Your parents care about you, and that's why you know they won't be happy. They'll be worried for you. Rightly so, imo.

Alternatively don't tell your parents and keep the relationship secret.