If your dh cheated

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Would you have appreciated somebody telling you that were?

I've seen it play out where people tell & it never ends well.

If it's a affair I think that eventually the cheated partner finds out & if it's a one night stand many would rather not know.

What do you mean by “not a close friend”.

I would share the information with anyone I considered to be a friend.

Still not sure what to do

At this point. You know nothing.

A car where you think it shouldnt have been and an admission to someone else. What if the someone else, finds out its you that told?

Right now, what you have is easy written off as someone causing trouble.

Telling someone that their husband is cheating, is literally going to bring their life crashing down around them.

If I knew I was going to do that to someone, I would ask to meet and face to face explain what I know. Give them proof to read later and apologise for the pain my revelation would cause them. I’d also be present to answer any of those desperate questions that would more than likely arise.

To be able to face someone in such a way takes concrete proof. Screen shots printed of texts. Love letters. Photographs. Etc.

To simply send a text or make an anonymous phone call is awful. To then present such questionable evidence is unfair at best.

I know we all say we’d want to know...but only if we really will know. Uncertainty would be even worse than not knowing imo.

On balance, I would want to know. But only with proper evidence.

Absolutely. The worst feelings for me after being cheated on was embarrassment/humiliation. I couldn't stand that others knew and didn't tell me.

Yes I wish someone had confirmed to me my suspicions about my cheating xh. If I found out anyone was cheating and had concrete evidence would always tell the partner who was cheated on. However, in your case you are relying on something that had been said to a friend. I'd want to gear it from them directly myself. Xx

It depends on the circumstances... My ex cheated and his whole family denied it, to my face and acted as if I was loopy.
In the end it was him who told me the truth.
I lost trust in them all - they still maintain it didn't happen despite me knowing!

I'd have rather someone told me 100% but that's because I had suspicions.

If I didn't suspect anything and someone informed me, I'd want their proof. And perhaps shamefully I may accuse them of being jealous (it's easier than accepting someone you love being unfaithful)

Be careful - with no proof you're on a sticky wicket

I’ve been on both sides of this, I’ve been told of an affair and I’ve told someone about their DP and to be honest, I would still tell and I would still want to be told as well.

Thank you for the points of view

Have you decided what to do yet?

No I haven't. I suppose concrete evidence is the next step

The person who told me had concrete evidence as his wife admitted everything so he told me. When I told the person I couldn’t show them anything, as i’d caught her DH in the act, but it was my word against his, she thanked me for telling her and went home to sort out her business, he admitted it and that was that.

Yes, I'd do a Dr Foster - style reveal (if I could get invited round for dinner)

Yes