Just that! I have a fairly good understanding of gaslighting as my ex did it to me and I read up a lot about it afterwards.
This week I’ve just realised my boss is doing it to me. She’s told lies about me around the office. When I was asking her about something the other day that she didn’t want to give me, she totally twisted what I was saying, accused me of bad mouthing another colleague (I totally was not!), she accused me of all sorts. It was like the blinkers came off right there!
Having seen this behaviour and now knowing I’m going to be the next of her victims, I know I need to leave. It’s a shame as I like working there. My job is quite niche but there are vacancies locally.
The problem is I absolutely hate conflict and I know if I hand my notice in she’ll make my life hell on Earth. I have to give 3 months too! Should I just stick it out, knowing this about her, or just bite the bullet and have 3 months or torment?