So my boyfriend and I decided to go out with 5 other friends of his to a clubbing event. Among those 5 friends, there is 1 couple, 3 singles (1 female, 2 males) with 1 male recently became single.
When we got to the club my bf jokingly told me that he is going to be a wingman for the recently single friend. That friend then started to drag my bf off around the club and I was left just with the couple who I know but still feel a bit uncomfortable and upset that my bf just ran off like that. Every time I come across my bf and that friend they always in the rush to run off somewhere else, seem like they’re having a blast, while I’m left feeling angry that I’m all alone. I don’t remember how long it was but the couple ask me where my bf went and I said not sure, they suggest we go looking for the others, I agree.
When we finally found the two guys, I saw his friend was talking to a group of people while my bf was standing there talking to this girl alone. At that moment I felt so upset and angry, like he left me all night and now found him talking to some random chick at the club. We walked over, bf all smile and say hey, I couldn’t hold in how angry I was so I turn around and said I’m leaving, he chased after me and this is our conversation:
Bf: what’s wrong?
Me: You left me all night and now I see this.
Bf: I didn’t leave you alone, you were with other friends.
Me: Yeah, but they’re a couple and I was alone the whole night.
Bf: My friend is sad from the break up, so I’m only trying to help.
Me: what about that girl you happily talking and flirting with?
Bf: You’re being unreasonable now, I wasn’t flirting and only talking to her about Europe since she from there, so I can get an idea of where to go when I take you. You wouldn’t act this way if it was a guy him taking to.
Me: Of course I wouldn’t cause there is a different.
Bf: It was (friend name) who approached that girl and then he got distracted talking to other people.
Me: It doesn’t matter, you’re the one end up alone talking to her. You didn’t even bother to look for me once.
Bf: I did try to find you but couldn’t see you anywhere.
Me: I’m leaving, m I’m done being here and alone.
Bf: I’ll leave with you then if that’s what you want.
Me: Just stay with your girl who you had so much fun talking to.
Bf: There is nothing going on, so now I can’t even talk to people without you being mad and jealous. Don’t cause a scene and know that I love you, you shouldn’t be worry.
Then one of his other friends that disappeared all night got kicked out of the club for some reason, so we all left. I was still feel very upset, but I just left it at that.
The next night when he stayed over at my place. He left his fb logged in while he went for a shower and I saw that friend of his msging him talking about that night at the club. I know I shouldn’t of snoop but I let my curiosity take over and scroll through the msgs. The msgs between them with his friend saying “oh that European chick was so hot that night”, my bf go “I so could of got with her, if I wanted to, she was interested, but too bad I’m taken”. I don’t know how I suppose to feel, upset that he enjoyed talking to that girl and think she hot or glad that he know he has a gf and wouldn’t cheat on me.
Am I being unreasonable for being upset that night when I found him talking to that girl? Was he right about me overreacting? It just so hurt to not see your bf all night and to finally found him and he happily chatting to another girl and didn’t think to look for me all night.