Boyfriend's mum and comments on my looks

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Long story short:
Im 24, been with boyfriend for a few months. Every time i see my boyfriend's mum she comments on how tiny I am - I am tiny being 5'0 and 7 stone 4 but I dont need to be told 24/7.
It's like his family see it as my defining characteristic with his dad telling friends when they ask about me as boyfriend's new girlfriend that I'm the tiniest, petitiest person they would see
His teenage brother said I was really pretty but really short to my boyfriend behind my back (boyfriend told me they had an argument about it)
And it's getting me down. Yes i'm small but that's my body and something i cant change so I hate how every time I'm at their house I feel conscious about my height. My boyfriend doesnt make me feel bad about it and tells me his family love me but it's just nibbling at my esteem

isn't she cute! She looks about 12 sitting there

That comment alone would have me running for the hills.What adult male would want to be dating someone others may perceive to be a child?

You're not particularly tiny, nor will you always look youthful, sadly, the ageing process hits everyone eventually, even Kylie Minogue. Lots of people are 5ft tall or less. That's why shops sell petite ranges of clothing. I would call this man and his family out on their constant comments about how teeny tiny you are and how childlike you look.

laugh it off, say it has its advantages, cheaper child section clothes, less risk of injury in a fall, easier to look into mouse holes.
Its not going to change,
I have a different situation, but everyone is always taking the piss out of me, fortunately I have a fabulous repartee !!

I don't have that many conversations about my height,
I was very insecure about my height a couple of years ago and would seek comfort in my friends

It's insulting and really bad manners to keep on commenting about someone's appearance. Why can't your DP see that, and why can't he stick up for you and get them all to STFU about it?

Honestly your boyfriend sounds really creepy, really creepy, both examples you've given of bud families bad behaviour, it's him that was at the root of it.

I'm 5'11''. Never received any bad comments about my height from anybody, just admiration. BUT. I always, ALWAYS get grief over my height from my own family. I'd be pissed off if it wouldn't be so funny, actually. I don't see them very often, usually about once a year (different countries), but each and every time I see them, I always get that 'wow, you're tall' (said in a negative way). It's always said disapprovingly and sounds as if it's the very first time they set their eyes on me. I mean.. DUH? I'm your own daughter, it's not like I didn't grow up with you and you didn't know how tall I am?

My dad mentions my height sometimes (wow, you're like a giraffe!) and my mum still didn't give up trying to make me feel bad about it (you're so tall.. Don't you feel..um..uncomfortable? Sticking out? Shy because of it?). It actually pisses her right off when I always insist that I absolutely LOVE my height :).

And that's true, I do love being tall. And that's why I usually don't pay much attention to their comments. So no advice on how to stop it, just wanted to add that tall people get grief over their height too :).

What else do they talk about? I presume that they have other topics of conversation. Tell your bf you don't want any further comments on you, especially him saying you look like a child. Ugh.
Tell him that is creepy.

They're disrespectful and boring.

I’m 5’3” (not unduly tiny otherwise). A friend’s boyfriend once genuinely observed ‘you’re short’ (supply your own tone of voice, but his was somewhere between a person who has only just realised this fact, or who thinks I have not realised it). I was so tempted to respond with something like ‘oh my God! So that’s why everything’s so far away....’

He does sound creepy tbf

I’m five feet as well and when I was young I DEFINITELY attracted a LOT of pervs because of my youthful looks and size. Sadly disability means I struggle to stay below ten stone now and has taken its toll on my face too so perverts don’t bother me anymore (on the whole).

I think you really need to talk to your boyfriend about how boring and wearing it is to constantly have comments about your body. Your height doesn't define you. But every time he comments in front of his family, he is essentially inviting them to participate in commenting on you. He needs to stop commenting on your height first. And then he needs to pull his family up on it too. You could also start making little comments about how "the height jokes are getting old, don't you have anything else?" as a gentler way of calling them out if you don't feel you can have a proper conversation about it.

One of my best friends is only about 5" and I know she used to get similar comments which frustrates her immensely. But her height is literally the least interesting thing about her.

What age are you? Your bf sounds creepy AF that he's delighted to be dating someone he thinks looks like a child

Agree, boyfriend sounds creepy.

I think your BF is coming across worse here, he’s the one that seems to be leading the conversations about your height and that you look like a child. (Creepy) If he hadn’t have started this, his family would probably have seen you as an adult. Now you sound like a doll!

I'm 24 but I wouldnt say I look like a child - Like i said I could probably pass for 16-17;
I just find it weird because, yes i'm below average in UK height, but nobody has ever been this fascinated with my height! Yes i've had the odd comments off people but people move past it within a minute.

Like i said, my ex and his family never ever brought up my height and his family were quite tall! So now whenever i'm in their house, I just feel like abnormal being and I feel the need to wear some form of heel - whether it's block or boot to at least appear taller

Honestly, i'm just starting to wish I was taller, I did grow to love my height - hated it when i was 18-19 but in my 20s i accepted i was short and thought it was just a special part of me,
Now i just feel stupid and like a child.

And for tips of whereabouts i look like in height and weight - think Ariana Grande (that kind of body type - and yes she gets comments about being tiny), i dont look like Ariana Grande of course, but similar body type

I'm 4'11. They get over the novelty eventually. Just ignore it and change the subject.

I also look ridiculously young for my age!

Honestly, i'm just starting to wish I was taller, I did grow to love my height - hated it when i was 18-19 but in my 20s i accepted i was short and thought it was just a special part of me,
Now i just feel stupid and like a child.

That's awful.

That's actually not a good indicator re. this relationship, sorry.

As long as you look petite and young for your age, and not like Wee Jimmy Krankie (last seen arguing with a homeless person in East London), then it's not something to fret about.