How did karma get your ex husband?

[Lola0426]

Hey ladies!

My husband wants us to seperate and for me to move out of the family home with our DS so he can have the house to himself . I refused, so he has resulted to bullying.

Just want to read some stories of karma getting your EX's back to make me feel better knowing that one day he'll get what he deserves for being a bully.

Karma doesn't exist.

OP, Karma does exist imo, it's just very misunderstood. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs, some choose to state their beliefs as fact like this poster did but they are just opinions.

The best thing you can do is to live your best life. Be the best version of you that you can be and his life will catch up with him eventually but hopefully you won't be anywhere near him to see it.

I kinda think that was goes around comes around.
So bit like Karma.

And I've got to say some of the situations I've ended up in have been of my own making - the perils of youth and arrogance.

But ex h lost his business went to work for new owners and it went bust.

Moved for a fresh start - 10 years after his dw chucked him out.

Things was I just felt very sorry for him.

We weren't married long and it was a amicable divorce plus he always treated dc very well.

I truely hope he is happy.

Karma doesn’t exist.

I told my exs OW that he hadn’t been at all single for the first six months of their relationship, I also put a lot of his belongings out with the bins. It felt good for all of about five minutes until I realised I har sunk to his low standards.

I like to look at it this way:

I escaped from him. He's stuck with himself for the rest of his life.

Not me, but a good friend at church.
Her DH came across as the suave older man, and turned the head of a younger OW. He left her to sink or swim with three children in their early teens, and although it was incredibly tough, she swam. Her two sons and her daughter closed ranks around her, and all three grew into fine young adults. And, as often happens in a crisis, she found out who her good friends were.
Word reached her that, without her doing the boring household maintenance, he was a less attractive prospect; the OW was after the high life, not running a middle-aged man's domestic establishment, including his social life, who was partly financially responsible for four people.
She was initially devastated, but after the shock wore off, she began to get a perspective on the less attractive parts of being with him (nobody's perfect, but she sincerely believed in "for better or worse" when she took her vows!)
She didn't stop him from contacting the children, but they were old enough to decide for themselves, and staunchly refused to have anything to do with him.
She never met another partner, but is now at the centre of a close loving family with several beautiful GC.
He is apparently eking out a lonely existence in a bedsitter.

I believe Karma does exist. If you do bad things bad will catch up.

You reap what you sow.

It may not be obvious it could be in any form. But if you look it will be there.

You get back you give out.

So do un to others etc etc

The best karma is getting yourself a shit hot lawyer. I knew mine was the right one when he positively cackled when I told him the solicitor that then-H had got to try to bully me.

I found my Hs plan on our computer - to kick me and my DCs out of our home then him rent out a bedroom or two to make some money. His assets, investments weren’t to be included in the divorce even though he’d spent the last year or so making sure I got rid of mine.

His “very reasonable” offer was to buy me out of the house for £20k while I was a student. So no chance of a mortgage, while moving DCs (one has autism) out of the family home.

My shit hot lawyer got me the house (£120k equity) plus £10k.

There’s your karma OP. Get yourself some good advice.

He's now fat and bald and lives in mummy and daddy's spare room with mummy washing and ironing his boxers

He got really fat after being the smuggest wanker ever about me being overweight and him being slim. Funnily enough after losing him I lost 120lbs and he gained about the same 😂😂😂

My ex had an affair. He did me a favour because that ended our marriage.
I’m happily divorced, have a lovely social life, my relationship with my (our) children is brilliant, I’m living in my own home that’s how I want it, I have a great boyfriend.
My ex on the other hand is now living with the OW their 2 children and her 3 older ones. He’s lost the respect of his oldest children by being completely self absorbed, he’s also lost contact with his friends and family.
So karma got him by making him live with his own choices.

He has to be him. That must be grim.

I dated someone a few years ago and really fell for him. At the time I was going through a bad stage with my career. He made a derogatory comment about this because he was in touch with the woman he left me for.

This woman eventually dumped him. I now have a better job than him and I inherited a small sum of money. If we had still been together I would have treated him to a holiday.

With karma I wouldn't wish any harm on anybody. My ex's comments spurred me in to try and do better for myself. I actually have him to thank for that

Hope you don't mind me joining in - he wasn't an ex husband

Well, call it what you will but ex had a very sticky end. I doubt very much it was 'punishment'.

But in the initial months years after I left the vile bastard I incessantly plotted ever lurid tortures etc. It was the only thing that got me off to sleep at night, fantasising about justice.

See, I think this 'live your best life' stuff is all very well but if you're thoroughly traumatised it can take a while to live, let alone live a best life.

I think the overwhelming thirst for justice is a powerful, primal impulse and it's healthy to let it roll - but it takes courage. I wouldn't like to think of the consequences if I'd slapped an intellectual soundbite on enormous grief and trauma. Sometimes you have to let that stuff out and it's the healthy thing to do. Ime the time comes when the explosive ire fades and gradually drops off.

In fact op, I hope his willy gets gangrenous, withers and drops off extremely painfully and agonisingly slowly .

You know you have to get to a lawyer, don't you? You can laugh in his face when you get the settlement - did he really think he could shrug you off like garbage. Hahahaha.

Don't let money stop you going to a lawyer (if that's the case) - you get your first half hour free, where they'll review your case; then you pay your lawyer out of your settlement, either in a lump sum or installments over many years.

If it's not the case and you're hesitating for some reason, please be assured that's where you get your karma: through the law.

Mine swore blind he would see me and his kids destitute homeless and on the streets. I bought him out of the family home many years ago. Guess who just lost his house and had to move to a cheap state ( 2000 odd miles away from us) what a shame- and rent as he didnt make any profit, as he couldnt sell and had to do a short sale, on his house even though he owned it for 10 years.

Karma is a cunt and it got the fcker and I give zero fucks

You moving on to something or someone much better and living your best life, totally forgetting about the past and not even giving it/them your time by thinking about it is the best revenge.

He's developed erectile dysfunction and hasn't been able to sustain any kind of relationship since we split 2+ years ago.

It's probably all the burning hatred he feels towards me and my happy, carefree, fulfilled post-him life, it's literally eating away at his penis from the inside

My friend's husband left her for her best friend. They'd been having an affair for around 5 years. When he left, he used to turn up with the other woman when he'd come to pick up the kids for his weekends. Then they'd stand together in my friend's doorway holding hands and simpering.

My friend was depressed for about 2 years. Then she got a job and began to feel better about herself, met a nice new man too...the ex husband turned up one day in tears, because the woman had left him for HIS best friend!

Talk about karma. He was devastated...he'd lost his oldest friend and his girlfriend too....he was actually begging my friend to take him back...couldn't believe he'd made such a mistake. Yeah right!

She showed him the door of course. She's now married to the lovely man she met and they have an incredibly successful business which they built together from nothing.

My cheating, gaslighting, emotionally & financially abusive ex drank himself to death a couple of years ago. Felt no joy though, just sadness. Especially for our son who was 15 at the time.

@BillHadersNewWife
OMG
that is karma.

Good example of the type of female that becomes an ow.

No they didn't make a vow to you but they need to take responsibility for their part and for people to realise they quite predatory and should be pulled up as such.

I escaped from him. He's stuck with himself for the rest of his life.

Love this

I don't believe in karma. My ex constantly cheated on me, left me twice and ruined my relationship with someone else during the first time he left me, begged to come back and i dumped the other guy, we got back together and he didn't change.

A year later he left me for someone else, it completely destroyed me, i hated myself, had no confidence or self esteem. Yet he spent the next 6yrs trying to get back with me but i had lost feelings for him and no longer wanted him plus i couldn't trust him not to hurt me or break my heart again. I actually swore off men & been single since 11yrs ago!

He's been with the same girl all these years, they now have two kids and he recently married her. He has a better paying job than me even though i went to uni & he doesn't have any qualifications at all (nothing bad about that as I've always admired his hard working, drive & determination), has new friends and is always out or on holiday while i have none of that lol so i see no karma. I'm not bitter however & try to get along but he makes it difficult. He does pay child maintenance with no issues so I appreciate that.

However throughout the years he always apologises when he sees me (we have a child), sometimes can't look me in the eye & other times i catch him looking at me, he always claims to regret leaving me & says "she's his karma but he's made his bed so he has to lay in it and has to try to make it work but he wishes he was never with her & should have stayed single since i wouldn't take him back. He was young & dumb back then & it was a big mistake". Apparently he loves me more but treats her better (i still don't understand that one lol). His mum always says he's unhappy, he's told her he's staying for the kids etc but i find it difficult to believe him because he lies so much & his mum could just be making excuses for him.

Apparently last year he was really depressed. His now wife treats him badly, belittles him in front of others and has isolated him from all his former friends & family. He's only regained contact recently with his mum and i had to tell him to because she was distraught he was ignoring her. His family are also fed up with him so its now a two way thing of his siblings and cousins ignoring him & him them.

Yet to me he seems happy. Maybe I'm wrong but when you've been with a compulsive liar who even lies to your face when you have evidence of his wrongdoings, who emotionally & mentally abuses you which destroyed you its extremely difficult to believe a word from him. I don't hate him but I'd rather zero contact with him. I'm a much stronger person 11 years on at 34yrs old, I'm a happy, confident person again and am even open to meeting someone now. I honestly have no idea if karma exists or not because I'd have to wonder what did i do to deserve all he did to me. I don't hate him though.

Gosh my post was long

Mine's already been said: has to live with being himself, has to live with knowing what he did, and has to live with knowing what he lost (family).

Doesn't mean I didn't and don't still sometimes have moments of imagining horrid things happening to him. But he mistreated us for a long time and as a PP said, living full stop is hard enough when you're traumatised, never mind living your best life.

My life might not be great because of my health but in terms of anything not related to my health, I'm kind of on top. I'll never have financially what the ex had, but he'll never have many of the more important things in life which I have.

You definitely reap what you sow whether it's a physical thing or having to live with internalised guilt eating away at you.