Last chance saloon

[onemoresmartie]

Hi everyone
I have posted before but I'm at my wits end today
Have been dating a guy since August and things were going well or so I thought
He had mentioned he wanted to be girlfriend and boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and I said I wanted us to date for a bit longer as I felt he hadn't been as consistent as in the beginning
He said he was fine with this and has since said that he took a big knock when I said that.

He has been hurt in the past as have I and yesterday after him cancelling our plans to spend Sunday together he has sent me a message saying he thinks we both have unresolved issues from past relationships that he is gutted but doesn't want to continue things

Im reeling and thought that dating someone for 2/3 months is still just getting to know each other and feel like there's something else going on

Do I contact him one last time or just leave him alone?

His last message said I hope you find someone, take care 🤨

We had a chat on Friday night and cleared the air and within 48 hours he has ended it

My brain is fried

He’s asking to come to your house because he wants sex, nothing else. You know that, that’s why your spidey senses are feeling off.

He will get a shock if that's all he's after as it's totm 😂😂

onemoresmartie please tell me that you’ve cancelled meeting him. You are worth more than this loser.

@onemoresmartie - Very gently: you'll find someone who values you and treats you with respect when you're able to do the same thing for yourself.

He cancelled me after I hadn't heard from him and asked him what time he was coming

He said he has been offered over time so he has work in the morning and that the spark had gone no matter how hard we try and get it back and to enjoy my night what ever I do

Then before I could reply and say no worries he's blocked me.

Nice 😢 I feel really crappy now I should of ended it when my gut knew it was off

No more chances now. Block and delete his number. He cancelled to go out with his mates or another woman. You were only good enough to watch tv and have sex with. Raise your bar in future.

I will...feeling very annoyed at myself for not listening to my own self

No, you did listen to yourself and you have had questions, that’s good. It’s normal to feel confused when someone is giving you mixed messages like he was. I think what you might want to work on is your tolerance level of the mixed messages, and that it’s ok to say you’ve had enough of it to end things.

@onemoresmartie I've just looked at this thread and it was like watching myself.
I always put peoples wants / needs in front of my own even though my gut says otherwise.
Such a slog to build yourself back up again.
I hope you're ok.

Thanks I had a night out with my friends and apart from the self loathing hangover I feel much better about the whole thing
I'm just gunna take it as a learning curve and an example of what to not tolerate