Urgent advice really needed!

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So, I met my Husband yesterday to discuss the children. He is currently living with the woman he cheated on me with and left me for.
To cut a long story short he told me the grass wasn't greener on the other side, that he was unhappy and wanted to come home.
Whilst we were walking back to his car the other woman turned up, got out the car and kicked off screaming and shouting all in front of her 7 year old son. My ex wouldn't let her attack me and asked her to stop speaking to me the way she was. Anyway, she shouted in front of my daughter that she was pregnant and having a scan on Tuesday.
I spoke with my Husband who said she had done three pregnancy tests and they were all negative and she thinks she is pregnant because of sore breasts and sickness. When I asked about the scan he said it is a pelvic ultrasound at the GP surgery. I asked if she had had blood tests and he said no. Apparently she has said the scan is an early pregnancy scan but I was under the impression a gp wouldn't request one and certainly with no confirmation of pregnancy? She had back surgery only two weeks ago and to be honest I am not sure I believe her as it all seems a bit strange. Can anyone shed some light in this? This news has floored me, I went from sorting things out with my husband to hearing that!

No, the OW took her seven year old with her whilst she kicked off. My child was at home.
I have no idea what to do or where to go from here. I just feel incredibly down and shit!

I remember your previous thread. He is bad news and his drinking is out of control. Now he has a crazy OW to add to the mix. Run away. Far away.

Goodness, are you considering taking him back?,where is your self respect . You know it's just till the next woman? How can you be with a man who is shagging other women?

its quite easy - if he is genuine - then he will move out of her house and rent a room and live on his own for a while . He has to do all the work . Don't rush to do anything . be on your own and you might find out you don't miss him too much .

I'm so sorry OP, I missed the part about your loss of pregnancy.. take good care of yourself.

All of your (plural) behaviour is ridiculous. He cheated, she's the OW who wants to have a baby with your dh, you're continuing to sleep with him and got pregnant (genuinely sorry for your loss) and he's confused!!

Stay away from him and only engage for the kids. If he is really not happy with her he will (should) leave her. Don't let him talk you into rekindling things whilst he's still sleeping/ living with her.

@Mummyshark2018 it sounds to me that op fell pregnant before he left, or have I done the maths wrong?

@Redcherries
Not sure but if so that's a very short window to get 2 women potentially pregnant?

Go back to email communication only. Don't engage in any chat other than the children, maintenance, access and divorce. Get yourself legal advice asap.

Please don't let this waste of space mess you and your kids around any more. You deserve much better than this

It's understandable to feel shit. You've lost your husband and a pregnancy in such a short space of time. But getting back entangled with this twat will not make you feel better. It will only prolong your unhappiness.

Save yourself a few months / years / decades of misery and don't let this waste of space back into your home & bed. He choose another woman over you. That's who he is. He cheated and abandoned. You deserve better.

Move on, he's an abusive shit.

And have a full STI screening.

Thank you everyone for all your kind words and encouragement. The support is overwhelming and has helped.
I was pregnant before he left, found out a few weeks after he was with her.
I do need to be strong, not get sucked in and stay away. It's like he has this strong hold over me, he can feel me in so easily it's strange.
This is now the third time he has done this, and whilst I did kids him back when he kissed me I did not sleep with him.
I think the fact he said all he did and then neglected to tell me honestly about suspected pregnancy also says a lot.
He has left me in tears all day and feeling incredibly down and upset and I haven't felt this low in weeks. I was just getting back on track, laughing and feeling strong.
I need to stay away for good.

you can do it OP!

you don't know where to go from here

The only way is up OP (in the words of Yazz) you've managed to get away from a complete wank badger. You can now make decisions based on your needs and wants.

Thank you! I know I need to stay away from him, all it does is bring more drama into my life and more hurt.

Just remember up until yesterday you were happy again . He shows no concern for your happiness only what is best for him.

Hopefully you get to spend today with some of those people who were making you smile

@Starlight456 Thank you. I was in a better place mentally a few days ago. Now I have spent my whole weekend off in tears. You are absolutely right, he has no concern for me and I think now is the time to break contact for good. I feel like I am right back at the start and incredibly down. I am still dealing with the loss of my marriage and child, hearing her scream she could be pregnant is a stab in the heart.

Yeah that’s got to hurt like hell. Ultimately I imagine she will either be left with a man who doesn’t want her or he’ll do the same to her as he’s done to you and she’ll be where you are now. What goes around comes around.....

You look after yourself and do stuff with your friend and family.