Am I going crazy..

[SarahLouise10]

So been with my dh 10 years, last year I found some messages to someone he worked with, they wernt terrible but just a little inappropriate, like they would message first thing in the morning and last at night. It would always be when I'm not around or when I'm off to put dd to bed. Anyways I pulled him up on it and had a break but manage to sort things out. My anxiety doesn't help. But he doesn't understand this and if he doesn't tell me I make up my own answer which is likely to be worse then the truth. He doesn't work there anyone but still message the girls at his old work. He still doesn't tell me this. But is it right.. Am I just just thinking it all??

This should be in relationships but anyone who sends regular personal messages to someone first thing in the morning or last thing at night is invested in that relationship/friendship and the person who replies them is also invested.

Hi @SarahLouise10, we're moving your thread over to our Relationships topic where you'll hopefully get some more advice and support.

I agree with Roly above, its a bit close to send messages to someone first and last thing and they are inappropriate ie flirty presumably? And this has been going on for a year or more?

First thing / last thing messages , to me that means they are in a relationship. Basically, iMessages like that mean " you're the first and last thing I think of each day". If my partner was doing that I'd show him the door.

This first happened about year and half ago. Doesn't feel like that long. But he says they are just friends and itl be more suspicious if he'd stopped talking. I only saw snippets of the messages last time, and I had pulled her up on it too but all she said was she was in a relationship. Thing is they could be messaging compleaty innocent but the main thing for me is why doesn't he tell me when he has spoken to the girls from his previous job. It is always when I'm not in the room, on Snapchat so the history disappears.. don't know what answer I'm looking for here, just not sure what to do. We have been together for so long we've been happy but it makes me feel like I'm not enough