****FUMING**** Run into OW today ...should I ask her for a 'meeting'

[Riss70]

I am SOOOOO angry - I ran into OW today at work and when it seemed that perhaps I was starting to 'deal' with matters it all came crashing back and I needed everything I had to not smack her across the mouth.
Emailed H and informed him that at that point in time I HATED him and he was a ASS and that grrrrr I almost walked out of work (work in legal would lose job if I did smack her and SHE is not going to get te satisfaction)

Agrh searching for support back up something anything - should I call her or perhaps set up a lunch meeting tomorrow (is that stupid....)

hmmm there has gotta be something else I can do.....maybe....aww i wish she had a man then I would get both the bastards back and a little spice myself....oops not nice would then feel cheap and nasty once the inital glow of vengance had faded......

nahh gotta get another idea - can't go for the prawna s she still lvies with her mum who is reportedly a very nice lady...she just raised a scrag

tell me how Sleepy?

wee through her letter box, or you know the thing when people put dog crap in a paper bag and set fire to it (ive always wanted to do that one!) scratch her car with a key, stab her wheels erm erm erm.......slip laxitives into her coffee!!! take her a cake as a (peace offering) lace it with rat poison...

cue the BREWhahahahaha

cut up her clothes

Oh yeah can I title a thread with "low class slapper whore" in it or is that not on here

lurve the peace offering but would go for VERY strong laxatives.......

brake fluid on her car paintwork!! will strip the paint and cost her loaaaadddsss to get repaired!!

yer maybe rat poison was a bit drastic lol

i need to go to the shops if you think of anymore let me know and ill be plotting all the way there and back

Thank you so much...all of you for helping me get through this. A little flippant and rather vicious venting was what I needed....now wait until H comes home from work.....gonna give it to him BIG time for my sufferance today but at least will be able to do so without full brunt of several hours build up....hey you guys have saved him possibly literally and perhaps saved me from gaol....I felt like BLOODY CHOKING HIM earlier after the office encounter thanks thanks thank....

PS anymore ideas I'm open to them

Why don't you email her the link to this thread. She'll be mortified!

Hey, whoa , this woman is completely inferior to you, beneath your contempt and in the long run the best thing you can do is ignore her existance as if she were some form of mouldy growth on the office window frame. You know "it" exists and it's not pleasant but you just ignore it.

If you know she likes a drink and is likely to drive, may be you could report that to the police but other than that treat like a bit of dog poo on the sole of your shoe.

I LOVE IT UBER ALICE LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT

Be careful with using office e-mail facilities to bully someone , whatever they've done to you or however much they've provoked you.

Hi Fedup....yes you are right entirely and I do know this.....but it is nice to be reminded thanks you

And generaly that is what I do but for some reason this morning I was particularly taken aback when I was in the same space as her it really upset me and threw my day out of kilter...perhaps it was because I am menstral or mayb because we are in the midst of negotioations to buy another property and I am having dobuts about that....not sure but today ti was a whammy where as it is normally rather insignifigant or at worst a little fizz

thank you for the reminder...it is nice and I appreciate being told of my superior status

I would NEVER ever do that (use the office email) it goes against my principles but the idea was enlightening and I would love for ehr to have a reality check at this exact moment

I am having fun with the ideas and banter but I would never do any of the things that have been posted...perhaps 20 years ago I would have but not now

Just be careful you don't get done for criminal damage. Be the bigger person. You need to make you H pay for what he has done. Treat Her with the contempt she deserves. If your marriage is over because of a pathetic woman she has won.

I agree and I would never do anything that woudl impact upon me and my ability to support my children in anyway shape or form but tonight was about a little harmless fantasy

I am the bigger person and I know that.....well morally and ethically she is actually an overweight big arsed short looking girl.......

aw enough bitching about her directly that's not good....but rest assured I would never give her the satisfaction of impacting on my job, my earning or my future...

what is it they say "fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me" well he will NEVER get to opportunity again and if he does he will be well and truly aware of what it cost him cause there are no more chances I am a fine catch I earn well look after myself and prioritise my chidlren and family....if he thinks you can have that a f8ck more than once he can try and find it again cause I will never go throguh this a second time

omg riss what have they done to you!! lol enough bitching about her directly? sod that!!! lmao i think uberalices idea was brilliant!!

and try choking H anyway just for the fun of it i am a nice person honest but to be blunt these pregnancy hormones have turned me into a right bitch!! brewhahaha

You are sooo much fun Sleepy and I guess that I was explaining that fun was what I was having and that I was not seriously considering those actions

I kinda figure that I am better than her and I don't really need to be cheap and bitchy (she is a short big arsed sloppy bellied git) BUT every now and again this kinda thing is realtively theraputic escpecially when I have been the bigger better person who did NOTHING WRONG in all this for a few months now and it felt good to lash out and bee nasty and uninhibited

who knows......maybe I will rise above it all and kick H out or maybe I will rise aboe it all and we will get through this glitch with the help of counelling lets wait ans see...in the mean time

I could.............smear vasoline all over her mirror ans windsceens.......brewhahahah

gotta go and get luch boxes packed for tomorrow thanks you all so much for a little light releif and support xx

brewhahahahahaha indeed hehe

if you still love him then you can make it work! as me and my dp have, although its been 3 years and on a bad day i hate him sooooo much, but then it passes and im fine again!! but when i hate him..... my god does he know about it! and as i cant be sensible for longer than 3 seconds i think you should put superglue on her chair

at least now when you see her instead of thinking...."ooooh you fucking cow bag slut face hoar"......you will be thinking "all the things i could do to you!!!" followed off with a brewhahaha!

good luck with everything, i gotta go help my kitty cat give birth....so exciting

take care x x x x x x xx x x x x x x x

Right, for what it is worth.

Dont be a push over. She is support staff, and right now she has a hold on you, and she enjoys it; she smiled at you!

She is slowly ruining your career, because, how can you progress when you are in work obsessing with her, instead of focusing on your career?

If I were you, I would not call a meeting with her, but her superior and say it is not beneficial to the the company to have support staff who has one night stands with husbands of other staff as it might influence their performance. Stress that you are doing ok, but ask what procedures are in such circumstances.

I'd add that she probably isn't doing her own career that much good. no one will take her seriously - if there is opportunity for progression everyone will have an opinion as to how she has been promoted.

I'd go for a meeting with her boss as well. I take it she definitely knows you know etc.

SSN is right - she is simply not worth your energy.

She will be loving seeing you so wound up. The best thing you can do is show her that she has done her worst (or best, in her opinion) - and it's had absolutely no effect whatsoever. Your husband doesn't want her, he wants you. Be cool, calm, and behave as though you are barely aware she exists.

Otherwise you are giving her the power.