Tickling

[HedgeHogFoxBadger]

My BF of nearly a year tickles me under my armpits or in my ribs. Used to be my inner thigh and it drove me mad and he listened and stopped doing it (sometimes left bruises)
It’s a hard tickle and he doesn’t know when to stop, sometimes pinning me down. He did it last night while I was doing my nails and wouldn’t stop and kept laughing then saying ‘there’s nothing I can do about it’

The past couple of weeks I’ve seen him I’ve felt very anxious and not sure I want to be in the relationship anymore.

This might sound OTT, but it’s a form of control and it’s a good idea to leave, now

That is abusive behaviour, plain and simple.

Time to dump him, he's trampling all over your boundaries. Feeling anxious when seeing your partner means it's game over OP.

That is physical abuse and a show of domination

Get shut of him

Do not be in this relationship any longer. This is is abusive behaviour from him.

Yeah there’s nothing funny about this. It’s controlling and horrible behaviour. If it’s causing you anxiety too it has to be a deal breaker. I’d tell him to get lost

Tell him he either stops it or it’s over..

Its something physical you don't like, you've asked him to stop and he refuses, to the point where it has bruised you.

Take out tickle and replace with strangle, works the same.

I think it says a lot about his respect (or lack of) about your boundaries and isn’t a good sign for the future. I hate being tickled and would get quite angry if DH didn’t listen to me when I said no.

Thanks everyone. I don’t know what to say to him.
I put off seeing him all week last week until weekend cos it’s making me feel anxious. I literally hate being tickled

It's horrible. He's a cunt. He's testing your boundaries.

If you accept the tickling after you've told him NO, he'll move on to something more.

Imho, it's kind of bullying

Tell him what we have said here. You might save the next woman from his physical abuse if he actually listens, but you are out of there.

Dump him, I would not put up with this.

He is physically overwhelming you to physically dominate you.

He enjoys seeing your distress and doesn’t stop.

He is nasty.

Next it will be a “playful shove/slap” etc.

Your anxiety is your body screaming at you that this is wrong.

What’s his relationship history?

There is nothing to say to him except “It’s over”.

Be careful he could turn even nastier when rejected so plan well and tell others.

How can tickles leave bruises?

It’s very clearly an assault.

My abusive exh used to tickle me or poke me to make me jump. It hurt. It was not done gently but when I complained he said I was being miserable and that he was only playing. I used to dread him 'playing' as there was always an undercurrent of nastiness with it.

Posted too soon.

Please don't tolerate this op. Get rid of him.

It's bullying behaviour.. he's a fucking PRICK and you need to tell him to GTF OP.. this is not a nice man...

Personally ... I loathe tickling and would never allowed anyone to tickle my kids .. period.

it's abusive OP

My (now ex) husband used to do this to me when we were first going out. ln public, sitting in the pub.
l wish l'd known then what l know now. lt's the start of abuse, and as PP have said, a form of control. lt's humiliating and embarrassing.
He ended up being abusive, both psychologically and sexually. l'd walk now while you have the chance.

It leaves bruises cos it’s a hard tickle not a gentle tickle you would do if you tickled your child.
Like I said used to be my inner thighs which he would grab, now armpits and ribs which makes
Me mad. He occasionally pins me down and does it and once in front of my 4 year old and she joined in thinking it was funny. He’s don’t it in the bedroom a couple times too.
He will also slap my bum really hard too

Oh and all I really know is him and his GF split up cos she was seeing someone else.

Your 4 year old doesn’t need to see her mother physically overwhelmed, powerless and in distress.

She doesn’t need this man in her life for another minute.

So what next OP?

He is assaulting you. Dump him.

It is worrying that your 4 year old has seen it and joined in, thinking it is funny. Nip that in the bud right now.

Tickling is abusive. I am opposing to it in all situations.
There's nothing funny about it. It's about power and control.