Tickling

[HedgeHogFoxBadger]

My BF of nearly a year tickles me under my armpits or in my ribs. Used to be my inner thigh and it drove me mad and he listened and stopped doing it (sometimes left bruises)
It’s a hard tickle and he doesn’t know when to stop, sometimes pinning me down. He did it last night while I was doing my nails and wouldn’t stop and kept laughing then saying ‘there’s nothing I can do about it’

The past couple of weeks I’ve seen him I’ve felt very anxious and not sure I want to be in the relationship anymore.

OP just reading you describe this is making me feel very aggressive in that desperate need to defend oneself. It's awful awful bullying.

What you are feeling is not anxiety, it is a survival instinct.

Yeah he can fuck off. Save yourself.

You need to spell it out to him in cold hard facts. 'You tickle me in any shape or form again, and I will never ever see you again'

tell him you don't like it and consider any form of tickling as physical abuse.

I still can’t see how ticking can cause bruising? Is it when he forcibly restrains you?

You really can't see it @Inish ?

No it’s because he digs his fingertips in so hard (thighs and upper arms) that it has caused bruising. Under arms is harder to bruise I guess but it’s like digging fingers in quite hard that is tickly but also quite painful

I still can’t see how ticking can cause bruising? Is it when he forcibly restrains you?

then you are very naive

It's not right OP. I absolutely hate tickling. I had to tell my DH it is abusive, I don't enjoy it and I am not laughing because it is funny, it is a reflex. I also told him not to tickle our DC. Sounds insane to some maybe but I hate it. He luckily understood and stopped. If he ever bruised me and didn't stop, I would leave. Definitely agree with PP saying it's a boundary being crossed.

Jesus this is terrible! How old is this moron? Not that it matters of course. He is using the guise of 'tickling' you because then he can laugh it off as just a bit of fun. This is far from the real intention though. Its actually quite disturbing. Please dump him. He shouldn't be around your child either.

Thanks for explaining OP......my question was for you to see - as I said up thread - that it’s a physical assault to dominate, overwhelm you and hurt you - don’t minimise it to tickling. I would be ending this relationship and pressing charges. Listen to your anxiety - look at your bruises.

I'd run for the hills