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Cancel or confess

42 replies

Nicolewonders · 29/09/2019 14:41

Recently estranged from DH, I turn up at a chiropractor for an initial consultation. The one who has been treating me up until now is an hour’s drive away and I’ve just gone back to full time work after a career break to rear family, so haven’t got a block of 3 plus hours free during the week. I am immediately drawn to this guy, as he sits and looks at me his eyes pull me in. Definite fizz in the room, not the usual boring banalities, we talk about the different origins and meanings of the word truth - as it turns out we’re both bilingual in the same languages (I live abroad so it’s a big deal to be able to speak my mother tongue at a medical visit). Consultation ends and I book another appointment, because I want to see him again but not as a patient! As I leave he puts his hand on my arm, looks me in the eye and tells me he’s so pleased to have met me or something like that because by then my head was a spin. So now the appointment is coming round and I am so bad at playing games and am the world’s worst liar. Should I confess, cancel or behave like a regular patient?

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LondonCrone · 29/09/2019 16:00

I’m somewhere between cancelling and behaving like a normal patient... this could be the most exciting chiropractor appointment in history!

In all seriousness, if it will make you uncomfortable, cancel. I think it would be pretty inappropriate to try parlaying this into a relationship from either side. But an exciting fantasy for sure!

CrystalShark · 29/09/2019 20:40

If you want any chance at something developing from this you cannot be his patient. So I’d cancel the next appointment, and send a message saying you really enjoyed meeting him and wondered if he fancied meeting for a drink socially sometime. Then leave it at that. If he’s interested he’ll bite! But definitely don’t go making medical appointments just to spend time with him, you’ll only shoot yourself solidifying the clinician/patient relationship which may itself block anything from going further.

Nicolewonders · 30/09/2019 18:32

So I did both, cancelled and confessed.

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WeNeedABudget · 30/09/2019 18:33

AND?!

Greenkit · 30/09/2019 18:36

And.....

Raphael34 · 30/09/2019 18:36

Well????

XmasAnnoyances · 30/09/2019 18:48

And he said...???

Nicolewonders · 30/09/2019 19:27

And we’ll see what he replies since only an hour has passed!

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Summersunshine2 · 30/09/2019 19:46

Oooo well done! We all waiting with you Wink

FavouriteSong · 30/09/2019 19:55

I misread chiropractor for chiropodist and was wondering how your eyes could meet while he's filing your corns.

Has he answered with 'dinner at 8?' yet?

Honeyroar · 30/09/2019 20:01

I did too FavouriteSong! Thought there must've been a hell of a spark if he was sorting out your toenails!😜

Fingers crossed for a positive reply.

dontdoxmeeither · 30/09/2019 20:02

@FavouriteSong 😂😂

farfromperfect82 · 30/09/2019 20:16

Following

Tractorgirlz · 30/09/2019 20:21

Oooh this is exciting!

Rachelover60 · 30/09/2019 20:23

Phew! I feel quite hot and faint at your first post.
Well you know he cannot breach professional ethics - but he might not be your chiropracter forever so who knows what the future holds.

BumbleBeee69 · 30/09/2019 20:29

cripes Shock

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 30/09/2019 20:38

Totally over invested here. What did you actually say?

Fcukthisshit · 30/09/2019 20:42

Fingers crossed for you op!

howyoulikemenow · 30/09/2019 20:43

Very brave! Hope it goes well

Wonderland18 · 30/09/2019 20:44

Ahh love it, fingers crossed!

NewMe2019 · 30/09/2019 20:45

That was quick from advice and a few replies to cancelling and confessing.

IncrediblySadToo · 30/09/2019 20:45

Email or text?

Gruzinkerbell1 · 30/09/2019 20:45

Hope he replies soon!

AllFourOfThem · 30/09/2019 20:48

What did your confession say?

Bigmango · 30/09/2019 20:50

Ooohhhh post man, neighbour and now chiropractor (and nope don’t care if they are real or not...)