I've namechanged for this because I'm a bit embarassed.
I've been seeing someone for about 4 weeks and he seemed quite nice - a bit loud and more self-confident than me, but he was sweet, said nice things and made me breakfast etc.
This week, he has been a bit more 'honest'. I don't know if I am reading too much into this - I am glad that he feels able to tell me these things but it has left me feeling that I am not what he is looking for (which is, of course, fine) and that he doesn't really like me in which case, I wish he'd just say so.
Over the past two days he has, amongst other things:
Pinched my 'lovehandles' (I am a size 8, so there isn't a lot of me really) and said "What is this? "
Asked if I am growing my armpit hair - when I said No, and pointed out that I shaved every day he just said, Oh, I thought you were. They're not hairy, honest.
Looked in my wardrobe and said, "Oh, is this all you have? Why don't you try to look sexy some time?"
So, when are you going to learn how to give a good blow job? (never had complaints before, and am happy to improve/ change technique but think it could have been said in a nicer way)
I don't know if he is just speaking his mind and doesn't realise that he is being hurtful or if I am being a bit oversensitive - I have little confidence in myself at the moment, am going through a messy divorce, have put on 20lb in 4 months (although that is under control and, as I said, I am a size 8, so not huge) and have bad skin and hair a lot of the time.
I just want to spend time with someone who accepts me for the mess I am.
So, do I continue to enjoy the company and ignore the things that bother me, should I try talking to him about this or do I just ditch him now?