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My partner and I were arguing tonight.

I’m pregnant 31 weeks with twins still working full time and I am busted. I asked him after work tonight would he Watch my DD 6 while I had a nap alas we had my whole family coming up for drinks later. He did all grand. When I woke up he started saying to me about his friends stag next year that he hasn’t booked onto as we cannot afford it when I’m going off on maternity v soon he also has a son who he pays CSA for and my wage is the bulk of our living costs so that’s going to be cut a lot.

He is hinting and hinting about this stag and I said tonight that I found him to be quite selfish he was in Vegas in June for a week and away two weekends ago on a hobby weekend. He then lost it and told me al
The things he does for me....drops my DD at school some mornings when he’s off, let me nap (tonight was the first) while I slept, go to Tesco for me and how I’m ungrateful. Then he said

‘I’ve never once thought I was too good for a girl I’ve been in a relationship before until this one’

I feel like complete shit he is now saying I’m taking it out of context but I don’t know what context it was meant in other that what was said.

Dicky or not????

A tempting thought. Prick.
He blew two grand in Vegas, got a further break away with his hobby and is feeling hard done to now because he can’t go to a stag. Unbelievable. He’s taking you for granted and behaving like an utter twat. You deserve better.
He should have been the one driving. I take it it was the old “well you won’t be drinking anyway so you may as well drive so I can have a drink” routine? I’m angry for you OP.
He should be at home with you running a bath and rubbing your feet/back etc seeing as how it his babies you’re carting around.

Just home after drop
Offs I’m an asshole apparently won’t tell me why though. My mum has dd tonight so I’m hoping to get a big sleep and talk to him tomo about him leaving

I said I’d go get the car it is a 5 min walk away but over a bridge and down a dark enough path in a town I don’t know and it’s pouring rain. And he said ok text me when your outside...I’m in the car debating whether to drive home and leave him there

I'd have left him there. There aren't too many things that wind me up these days, but having read the above, it just makes me angry.

I think it's time to say to him "this is the first time I've been in a relationship and look at my other half and think he's a complete wanker."

God, he needs a slap, where is the queue forming?

Will he be sober enough to talk to before you have to pick up DD?

He’s clearly being a dick. I’d suggest the financial worry and the stress of being a dad to twins is weighing on him and he’s getting more stressed the nearer the time comes. That’s understandable, however his reaction is going out to play with his friends and ignoring it. A full grown man. Sigh.

Did you by any chance “Trap Him” into this pregnancy (that’s a popular reason for fathers’ moaning)? I’m presuming this situation must be somehow All Your Fault and that’s the problem? Especially as it’s twins, that’s bound to be your deliberate fault?

Boo Hoo diddums to him, he’s being a total arse.

He needs to man up and start considering the wider picture. There’s more to life than a stag weekend. And when you have children/pregnancy their needs come first. And when you have stress you address it instead of defecting it onto so called loved ones,( in a very unloving way) !

Ps what’s a JA? I know you pay double to it but I’m not sure what the acronym is for?

Gosh, don't let him to continue to treat you so awfully.

You'll be much better off without him.

Joint Account

If we didn’t have two babies on the way my DD and his DS I’d have no issue with him going it’s the money aspect.

He has woke this morning acting all lovey but I just cannot be bothered that too good for comment has told me all I needed to know. My sister wants to take dd out today so I have said yes and I’m going to speak to him I had a really bad relationship with my ex and I don’t want this again I’m too old lol

Oh op. What a situation. He is absolutely awful. How long were you together before getting pregnant? A lot of the tome women notice how shit their partners are in pregnancy because they didnt need to rely on them before that point.

That’s good he is reasonably sober and can actually speak then!
Of course you would be cool with him doing his hobbies and going away with friends, it’s just such a shame that he seems to think he can still live like that now when there are more important things to consider, babies. Life changes when you conceive.

That’s good you will get a chance to talk. Ask him what it is that he does that makes him think he’s a good husband and a good father. Tesco once doesn’t cut it.
Be interesting to know what he thinks he does and what he thinks a good dp/df does, and if they are the same!

Do you know if he was a lazy bastard with his exes and that’s why they couldn’t be arsed with him?

If he can’t do more than be a cock lodger he can go be a wee boy somewhere else, probably his mothers house as he won’t have any money after paying all his maintenance.
Bummer he’s like that, you deserve so much better, especially when carrying two bubus for nine long months. He should be treating you like a queen instead of a skivy/taxi/financial provider.

So we spoke...

App I give him too much grief he doesn’t see why Ibiza couldn’t be booked ok the credit card when we booked our family holiday for next summer on the credit card app I have diff rules. I said that the family holiday is for the kids not just one out of the five of us. Maybe I am wrong?

This holiday was booked with both of us OKing it and it’s a big holiday with cousins etc. So the kids will love it.

He thinks I was selfish wanting to leave at 12 last night as he hasn’t seen some of the ppl there in ages I explained that I was exhausted I had been up from 7am and had to drive home and do drop offs still I was wrong for wanting to leave sighhhhh

Would you be able to move in with your mum for a while and save up, so the next place you move to after that, you can pay 6 months’ rent up front?

He sounds utterly pathetic. So sorry you are in this situation.

Could you stay with your mum until you get sorted? I would do it sooner rather than later. Who's name is the credit card in?
He is a complete asshole!

It seems he is immature and on a different page to you...

Partying into gone midnight when heavily pregnant....why didn't he go alone??

And the money would worry me. Any credit card stuff would worry me. Why is he so happy to get into debt when you, the main earner, are deeply compromised???

How do you feel love?

I’m feeling fine tbh I was in a worse position when me and my ex broke up money wise etc.

I’ve realised that to him keeping his friends happy is more important than keeping his family happy. I love my friends dearly but my children come first all his friends seem the same too