could do with some advice/ experience from people who have been either side of this situation.
I’ve been with D (25) for almost 3 years now, a year and a half of that has been spent living together with a friend of ours in a pretty small house. Our relationship in general has been good, no real arguments to speak of, we have plenty in common, similar outlooks in life etc. This is both of ours longest relationship.
This summer has been a bit tough. I’ve been working crazy overtime and things have been a bit distant for a while, but I’ve been checking in with him on this and he told me that it was due to us never seeing each other etc. Our housemate bought a house and moved out last weekend, and I saw this as a chance for us finally to have our own space and to build things back up to where they were before.
Unfortunately, boyfriend sat down on Sunday and told me he no longer felt the same way for me and didn’t see a future for us; he was still happy when we were together but it was like something was gone for him. I left the house immediately and started looking for my own place.
He came to me yesterday and begged me to talk, said he’d made a horrible mistake. His mum and best friend have said he’s done nothing but cry and tell them he made the wrong choice for the last few days. He is saying that he had some doubts a few months back but instead of talking them through or tackling them he just let them fester- daily life was dull and he wasn’t excited about seeing me anymore. He let himself drift away and stopped putting effort into the relationship instead of working on what we had. He now wants to try again, but he has said he isn’t sure if he can recapture that feeling of ‘yes I definitely want to spend my life with this person’ but he is desperate to try as he still loves me.
Just wondered if anyone else had experienced this. I am at a loss about what to do.