Sorry for long post!so my partner has a dog, doberman, its 11, I'm not mad on dogs i like cats more, but this dog is not great.
So we are 5 years together, we have a 2yr old, I have 2 teen son's from a previous relationship.
He's always had avoiding type behaviour which I think the dog serves an excuse for.
We were supposed to move in when I was pregnant, he was living with his mum, when dd was born he would go off for hours at a time to see the dog, so he didn't end up moving in, which meant i looked after the kids full time so he could look after his dog,and work (he kept all the money for himself) and Dd woke up hourly for the first 6months so I was a zombie he got a full night sleep every night as he slept at his mum for the dogs sake. The dog stinks, he disagrees with bathing her much, she whines non stop when he leaves, with separation issues, if we leave her alone fir an hour she barks non stop, she is not spayed so bleeds everywhere when on period, so I have to remind him to clean her up, he then thinks I'm nagging, she only listens to him, i made alot of effort with her but she ignores me, he won't rehome her and when we moved in 8months ago the dog is still an issue,he currently walks her every night for 1.5hrs, I reckon he spends most of that time sat in a field on his phone relaxing, we are both full time mature students, we come home, I cook, then he goes to walk the dog, I sort homework, bath time, school stuff the bed time routine involves 1hour of settling dd, I basically am stuck in every night so he can walk the dog. He also sleeps on the sofa, he says it's just habit as he falls asleep there. Sex life only happens if he's already walked the dog and if I instigate, also he spends a lot of time on his phone and has a habit of buying things in secret. My problem is I had a good social life before I met him, I had friends I went out a lot, now I feel like I can't go out because he needs to walk his dog, me nor the kids like the dog, it licks it's bum then licks the floor,it wet farts up the wall, craps in the garden, its blood is on the walls from where it bashes it's crazy long tail or period blood splatters, it smells soo bad. I feel like there's no compromise, I hate living with it's filth and dog hair and nagging him to clean it,he feels bad that we keep her in the utility room but i cant be doing with her yuckiness all over the houss, I feel like his life didn't change since having dd, and mine has become relentless, hard, un-free, anti social, all to fit in with his dog. I tried taking the dog out myself to get out of the house and leave him with chores but the dog goes for other dogs when I've got her, she only listens to my partner, and he just watches tv so I still come back to chores. It's me who pays for her dog beds which she rips up her flea treatment when the dog baught in fleas and bit the kids (partner did not believe his dog had fleas because he didnt see a flea with his own eyes). If i dont buy it he wont. Anyone want a mangey mutt, i never met such an unlikeable dog before!any ideas/thoughts? Would u ask a partner to move out in this situation or am i being unreasonable?sorry for long post!x