Bizarre behaviour??

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I have never known a fully grown man behave this way....

Yesterday me and DH took our little girl to the park. My DH doesn't really do fashion and for that reason never dresses our child but yesterday he put her some clothes on so we could go to the park. He put her in a red Liverpool top and orange pants....anyway that's not the issue.

So we get to the park and another little girl was playing next to my DD. The little girl was trying to interact with my daughter and she asked "what's his name? What's the little boys name?" So I replied "this is a little girl her name is ........." the little girl asked "but why is she dressed like that? Why is she wearing pants?" I laughed it off and just replied "little girls can wear pants too" anyway this little girl followed me and DD for a few minutes just chatting to us and then as I was walking my DD to the swings DH grabs her hand and dragged her away?!? The other little girl looked at me just as confused as I was. So when I asked DH why he pulled our daughter away his reply was "because I don't want her associating with children like that, I will choose who my child plays with and it won't be a little shit that called her a boy". He then buckled DD in car seat and we went home DD screaming because she clearly wasn't finished at the park.

I told him that is "bizarre behaviour" and just said the other little girl must have been about 4, she was a child, a typical no filter, quizzical child. I laughed about it but he hasn't spoken to me since.

How ridiculous, he sounds very intense.

So orange tracksuit and a football top and he is offended that a girl thought she may be a boy
You have some real issues here

That's the thing.....what is the issue? I have spent the entire time wondering what was the issue? I wasn't offended. I laughed it off.

He is very odd, OP.

His subsequent behaviour (milking this "confrontation" pathetic for all it's worth) makes me wonder if he picked this argument on purpose. Possibly even dressed his daughter in football kit hoping for a comment he could rise to? That didn't happen, a 4 year old asked if DD was a boy and he ran with it.

What did he do for the rest of the day/weekend, after he stormed you all back home? Did he go out and leave you at home?

He could also just be a bristly fuck who took the 4 year old's comment as a criticism of his parenting (how he dresses DD).

Either way, this isn't a long term prospect. He'll escalate from this.

Your dh needs a check up.
All children are inquisitive they mean no harm
It`s the old adage out the mouths of babes.

The little girl asked a question and you answered it. No problems there.

Your dh is a knob. If your dd was a boy would he be saying the same thing about dictating who your DC socialise with?

Was he just incredibly embarrassed about his clothing choices and doubling down when trying to justify what he did -with all the 'I will control what she does and who she talks to' being him madly losing control of the conversation and ineptly overemphasising?

He's a knob, either way. Does your DD not scream, yell, demand that she wears her tutu with wellingtons and a riding hat, refuse to leave the house unless she's tried on every item of clothing she possesses and finally go out in a swimsuit and an old jumper of yours?

Because that day is coming and it's going to blow his mind...

He was very short with me for the rest of the day. I didn't take him on. I comment on his outfits a lot because he has some wacky combos but it's always been a running joke in our relationship and when I saw what he had dressed her in I just grinned and rolled my eyes and he was laughing at me knowing I'd pull some sort of face. I just wonder how he will be when our DD is older and asking random people questions

Is this a way to ensure he doesn’t do any childcare?
Does it really matter what your dd wears?
Does he not want your dd to make friends?
Will he only allow her to associate with fellow tracksuit wearing, Liverpool supporters?
You need to tell him that the best way to reduce gender stereotypes is to speak about them with children.
Not go off on one like this.
Make sure he doesn’t use this as an excuse not to pull his weight around the house.
Let him keep dressing dd.

He knew he had been silly when I had hold of her hand and he came to drag her away I said "leave her she's ok" and he stumbled on his words and said "I just don't want" then stopped himself which he generally does when he's either wrong or nervous

Why are you obsessed with what might have been going on in his head over this one incident, when your DH appears to have permanently checked out of basic childcare and housework?

I have an 11 year old dd with short hair. It is amazing the number of times other kids refuse to believe she is a girl. Every single time she plays a football match there is whispering ( loud) about how its not fair that the other team have a boy playing for them. Its seems to be beyond most childrens comprehension that a girl can have short hair. I have never fallen out with the many children that have assumed this and even when told she is a girl still refuse to believe it.

It sounds like it triggered something in him. Maybe he was bullied as a child?

So....DH got up this morning and suggested we go for a walk at a local park. He has apprantley forgotten he was in a mood last night but I suppose today is a new day. Anyway we have just got back and whilst we played with a football a little boy started chasing my DD ball...I'm at this point on pins as to what DH was going to do or say, DH goes over and begins to kick the ball around with DD and this little boy, even when the little boy took my DD ball I thought "here we go" but DH didn't react and was happy playing with both children, began chatting to other child's dad. Total different man to yesterday.

Total different man to yesterday.

What, so he fed, washed and dressed your DD, and put on a load of laundry before leaving for the park?

@Frangible nope, hasn't lifted a finger all morning. So I won't say totally