Is this normal ....dh has been away for 4 days and ..................

[mosschops30]

I havent missed him at all in fact its been blissful.

The house is clean and tidy
I seem to get more done even though I have to do everything myself
I'm sleeping much better without him snoring next to me
I wake up feeling refreshed like Ive really slept
Ive done things that I want to do (like spend ooodles of time on the pc when the kids have gone to bed)

Is this weird, should we be re-examining our relationship when he returns??

DH is in the military and its great when he's away (well except when he's awa to a war zone)

I watch what I want on tv, I eat wyhen I want, I ahve toast in bed, I have the whole bed to myself and of course, most important of all, I get to spend hours on Mumsnet!

Oh same here. I really enjoy it when he goes away!

Yep, same here! bliss

I don't think you are wierd at all, I love having the odd evening or weekend with DH away - get to slob out and watch what I want on TV etc... wouldn't want it to be permanent though!

My DP is away once a week with work and I relish those nights

For the first 8 years of our marriage, DH was away Monday to Friday (Thursday if I was really unlucky )

We moved south 7 years ago and effectively moved in together. He is off to the US on business in September, it will be hard flying solo but Lord God am I looking forward to it.

Mosschops, I have just had a week like that too (dh is due back tomorrow). I couldn't survive without the weeks he's away!

it's really hard when they come back (at first) and disrupt the house. Because once they are gone, it feels so much like YOUR house iyswim.

the sleeping without snoring interruptions is so unbelievably fantastic isn't it

My Dh was away for 4 days and I loved it!
Like you said I just suited myself.
I didn't miss him at all, and in fact was quite grumpy when he came back.

yes its normal, esp if its a long term relationship

Snoring and lack of sleep so bad that I sometimes take myself off to the spare bed just for a good nights sleep. Do you think this is OK or is it bad for the relationship?

Blimey Mosschops, this just happened to me but I was too embarrassed to post!

When dh was away for a week and when he got back a couple of days ago, I was a bit resentful tbh. I coped much better than I thought I would. The kids were better behaved too.

Things still a bit weird here tbh.

My MIl was the same as Saltire - FIL in armed forces so away for approx 8 months of the year altogther.
He's retired now and she dreaded having him home all the time
It's going wuite well so far but they do get ratty with each other....

I'm like this when dp goes away.

I think it does the relationship good to spend a bit of time apart. It's nice when they get back and you appreciate eachother a bit more, even if it is only for a few days

My dh is away for 6 weeks at a time.I miss him and love him but like you gals,enjoy the peace.

I totally agree. My dp seems to spend a lot of time going out with his mates at the weekend while I'm sat at home feeling fat, tired, and pregnant. As soon as I'm over the initial resentment, I start to love the fact that the place is so much tidier, I get so much more sleep, have time to chat to my mates for ages on the phone...

I think/hope it's normal to feel that way!

oh thank god, thought I was some evil wife from hell
mercy I know what you mean about the kids, everything is sooo much calmer here (and he accuses me of being the hysterical one!).
He's back tomorrow

yay, feel a bit relieved to read this cos I too have not been missing my dh very much at all and feeling guilty! I guess its different once you have a baby and all that romantic pining seems to have gone! He misses the baby more than he misses me and I am feeling content to carry on as normal at home without him! I was really worried about this!

god, i tend to overdo exclaimation marks (deliberately not doing one)

I wish i could get dh out of house! Washing stays down, place stays tidy, no one to argue with, have a pleasant routine that doesn't go to pot! Men must go out more! It's official!

ah, but who would fix the shelves when they fall down?

i'm great at the day to day stuff, but not sure how well i'd cope for big jobs - i would have to hire in someone to put play equipment together etc.

Kickass.... Ask dad! That's my motto!

my dh is away for 3 nights atm

I am definitely enjoying the extra space in bed and the no snoring

I have to admit, my DP's snoring is so bad we sleep separately alot. I know its not perfect, but it works for us. I can't handle his snoring. We have tried just about every cure going. None of them work.