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What would you think of this?

49 replies

Appymummy · 15/09/2019 10:50

So the other morning I was using DH phone for something and saw a message from DH chiropractor. He had gone out of his way to text her (don't even know why he would have her direct number?!) to say thanks for the appointment and he forgot to mention that her hair looked nice the way she had it that day, and to enjoy her holiday and will see her in a few weeks for the next appointment. AIBU to think this is a little strange that he would go out of his way to say he liked the way she had her hair?!? Chiropractor was very professional and just said "thanks" basically!

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AnneLovesGilbert · 15/09/2019 10:51

YANBU. How cringeworthy.

BringTheBounceBack · 15/09/2019 10:53

Why on Earth is he complimenting her looks

Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2019 10:53

What in the fuck is he playing at? He's flirting with his chiropractor - what utter fuckwittery. I'd be having words at a minimum, and I'd also be wondering who else he's trying it on with.

Coops80 · 15/09/2019 10:54

She handled that very well

AtrociousCircumstance · 15/09/2019 10:56

How creepy and embarrassing for her. Yes he was flirting/fishing. Discuss with your DP and be unapologetic in telling him it’s not ok.

AtrociousCircumstance · 15/09/2019 10:57

It’s not ok for your relationship and it’s not ok that the chiropractor has to receive creepy messages!

SallyWD · 15/09/2019 10:59

He was overstepping the step. If a client spoke to me like that I'd feel very uncomfortable and probably not want to treat him again.

CIareIsland · 15/09/2019 11:15

Yuck - what a creep.

Poor woman. Imagine having to massage some creepy blokes back when you know that they are imaging shagging you.

I hope she finds herself fully booked.

Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2019 11:20

If this were my husband I would be so humiliated. He's a creepy chancer who has made a complete fool of himself. This poor woman must be dreading ever treating him again. If she has sense she'll drop him as a patient. I hope you are going to confront him, op.

CIareIsland · 15/09/2019 11:27

Show him this thread. Tell him he is a creep. Advise him to seek a new chiropractor so as not to humiliate himself and her any further.

SparklyMagpie · 15/09/2019 11:28

Ewww! If I was her I hope she refuses him as a client next time

What a creep

PicsInRed · 15/09/2019 11:29

He's trying to have an affair.

This particular woman wasn't interested.

Eventually someone probably will be ... or already has been. I would be considering my options and firming up my personal financial position for independence. Do not financially, socially or emotionally rely on this man. Be ready.

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0lga · 15/09/2019 11:31

I would be considering my options and firming up my personal financial position for independence. Do not financially, socially or emotionally rely on this man. Be ready

This is excellent advice.

CIareIsland · 15/09/2019 11:34

100% PicsInRed

WizardOfAus · 15/09/2019 11:40

Have you asked your husband about it?

TwentyEight12 · 15/09/2019 11:51

I would think that he liked her hair that day and he found her attractive with her hair like it was.

In my experience, men enjoy making a woman feel good and for being appreciated for doing so because it makes them feel good in return.

joystir59 · 15/09/2019 11:52

Yuck.

SparklyMagpie · 15/09/2019 11:59

@TwentyEight12 what a load of shit

I wouldn't send a text to my doctor saying anything like that. He's chancing it not just being "nice" eurghh

TheStuffedPenguin · 15/09/2019 12:11

*I would think that he liked her hair that day and he found her attractive with her hair like it was.

In my experience, men enjoy making a woman feel good and for being appreciated for doing so because it makes them feel good in return*

FFS

brookelopez · 15/09/2019 12:12

I think she's going to feel so awkward treating him again.

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Appymummy · 15/09/2019 12:22

Thanks for replies! Knew I was thinking the same thing! Haven't approached DH yet, it's hard when he can fly off the handle at almost anything. Will have to think of a way to approach it....

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TwentyEight12 · 15/09/2019 12:23

Obviously you are an expert in this and I have no idea what I am talking about.

Fair enough.

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Appymummy · 15/09/2019 12:23

I should also add I use the same chiro company but have a different person treating me (a male) and there is no way I would say anything of the sorts and I do not have his number!!

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Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2019 12:31

Haven't approached DH yet, it's hard when he can fly off the handle at almost anything.

So he's abusive, manipulative and a gaslighter, too. Don't tolerate this shit.

DBML · 15/09/2019 12:44

😷 Your husbands a creepy one isn’t he.
He clearly is looking for an interested party to have an affair with. He will fly off the handle because he knows what he is and doesn’t want to admit it out loud. So instead of talking about his problem, he’ll try to put you in a position where you’re too scared of his reaction to mention it.
He might have been nice once op, but he’s not now.

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