He hasn't asked me out in 5 weeks....do I give up?

[inghamee]

Been on some great dates with him and we speak every day but he hasn't invited me out for 5 weeks now.
There was no argument and we still chat exactly the same.
I asked him to go for some drinks last weekend ..he said he couldn't make it.
I asked him last night if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said he had to stay home and do his garden.
Do I ask him if he wants to meet up next weekend? Or not?

No. Don't ask a third time.

Can you move on?

I'd leave it tbh OP. If he's genuinely interested he'll reach out to you.

Not. He's not really interested. If he was you'd have seen him.

Sounds that he likes you as a friend but no passion. Up to you if you are happy with that 🙂

Oh, op. He's just not interested. Maintain your dignity and block him.

Er, no. Don't ask.
If he wanted to see you, he would have said yes/ asked you back....

He's loving the ego boost.

He is not that into you and I would not ask him again. Move on and block him.

He's turned you down 2 weeks on the trot with what sound like fairly weak or non existent excuses. I'd move on.

No, sorry.

I read something earlier and I can’t remember where now but it’s so true. It was something like this.

‘If someone likes you, you will know. If someone doesn’t like you, you will feel confused.’

The garden excuse was the worst.
You would rather do your garden than spend time with me.

Oh gawd he has to stay home and do his garden - seriously? That's as bad as "I'm washing my hair."
Time to move on.

There have been similar threads recently. I will say what I always say: if someone is interested in you, they will make time for you. If they are genuinely busy (which this doesn’t sound like...) they would suggest another day instead.
He is NOT INTERESTED in a romantic relationship with you. I’m sorry if that’s harsh but the sooner you learn this the sooner you can move on.

Another guy has asked me out Sunday
Think I'm going to go out and just have fun
I felt like saying to him ...you doing your garden all weekend ?

I wouldn’t ask him again, he doesn’t sound interested. I’d probably reduce the chats as well.

It’s a bit “I’m washing my hair!” Go on the Sunday date and leave Alan Titchmarsh to it.

Forget about him and enjoy your date on Sunday.

I had one of these... he is wasting your time, keeping you as his back-burner girl and using you as an ego boost to boot.

I read this somewhere:

“While you are texting, men of quality are taking women they value out on dates.”

Ouch! Harsh but, sadly, true.

Don’t initiate any more texts now OP. If he texts you, you can reply but keep it short. Certainly don’t ask again to see him.

How long have you been seeing him OP? If he was better before, could he be going through something difficult?

Block him.

I would leave it at that and date other guys. Don't send him a final text or anything like that. Just let him go.

He's not keen. Don't continue to message him, just a waste of time. He'd have made time to see you if he'd wanted to.
Have fun with the other guy instead, see what happens

I felt like saying to him ...you doing your garden all weekend?

I'm glad you only felt like it and never actually said it!

He is definitely giving you a crumb or two to keep you interested in the off chance he wants to pick things up with you.

Do NOT make yourself an 'option'

Block him and go on your date with this other guy.

He's actually texting me now.
He's at the gym and is sending me shots of himself on the machines ???
I really thought we got on well too.
He is probably texting a few of us.

You’re not going to give it another five weeks are you? I’d completely call it off so he’s not even texting you. What’s the point in that?