He hasn't asked me out in 5 weeks....do I give up?

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Been on some great dates with him and we speak every day but he hasn't invited me out for 5 weeks now.
There was no argument and we still chat exactly the same.
I asked him to go for some drinks last weekend ..he said he couldn't make it.
I asked him last night if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said he had to stay home and do his garden.
Do I ask him if he wants to meet up next weekend? Or not?

Selfies from the gym ffs. What a twat. Bin him off. There's only one person he's into and it's HIMSELF!

To his gym texts...... DONT REPLY!
He's shown for five weeks he's not overly bothered. Ignore and move on.
If he shows interest because you're ignoring him, it's probably because he likes the chase.
Been there, done that a million times and it's rubbish

What a plonker

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there

Fuck him riiiight off!!

And enjoy your date Sunday

100% reckon he's keeping lots of options open, he's already got other plans with other people when you've asked him out, he'll probably come back round for another go if you let him-- don't... Just stop replying/block. He's out for fun/ego boost. Gym selfies went to all of you ;)

He could have done his workout in the garden .
Go out with the other guy and block texting chatty man .

I have no idea why a certain type of man does this OP, but they do. They don’t seem to want to meet up but they really enjoy the texting. It’s kind of alien to us I think, because I don’t think any woman would get anything out of it. But these type of men do. They get an ego boost and they get to feel they have someone in their pocket waiting for them, like some kind of security blanket, who is there should they change their mind or if someone “better” doesn’t come along. It’s deeply uncool behaviour.

I agree with not responding to the gym pics... and allowing this one to fizzle out.

Definitely go out with the other guy and have some fun

Walk away op, he's showing you he's not worth it.

I would be a bit childish and tell him that you’re going out with the other man, if he likes you in “that way” then you will certainly know about it by his response.

Enjoy your date, who knows where it may lead.

You hsve nothing to lose by bring really clear.

Say "i got in to the habit of chatting cos i thought you were working up to ask me out. Seems like that's a no. Shame. But mixed messages arent for me".

@Fr0thandBubble avoidants do it. It is an intimacy of sorts. That they can control. Been down this path a few times. Learnt the lesson last in the class.

OP look up matthew hussey minimum possible investment on you tube. It is funny

Think I might give him a run for his money, but I'm old/cynical/bitter and twisted, so probably not the best person to give an opinion

@31RueCambon75001 Interesting, I’ve often thought this particular dude who did it to me had an avoidant attachment thing going on!

I’ve seen some of your posts on other threads and often thought you’d given some really good advice. I think you and I have been involved with similar men in the past, sadly!