I have just found out I’m pregnant with what would be DC5. It is obviously unplanned, I have had the copper coil since DC4 was three months old. He is now ten and a half months old, still breastfed and I had a c-section so they advised no pregnancy for at least a year. Our other DC are all in KS2 so not tiny but still fairly young. All four of them were very much planned so I’ve never found myself in this situation before and I just don’t know how to tell my DH or how he will react. I only took a test on a whim because I had a couple of odd symptoms, I thought it was in my head but the positive came up straight away. At a guess I’m no more than 4 weeks, it’s hard to tell but I had heavy period style bleeding from the 9th-13th of August.
We said DC4 would be our last. We have a five bedroom home and our seven seater needs one back seat folding down to accommodate the pram and any bags iykwim. We don’t really have space for a fifth and I have only just returned to work PT from mat leave. I agreed to go back PT for one year because I didn’t want to leave baby DS with childminder FT just yet. I teach so my job can be fairly full on times, DH works FT and his job can be stressful too. We have a lot on our plates and were fairly happy bumbling along really, this is a huge curveball.
I’m mumbling and on a tangent because I’m in shock and a little scared. I don’t really want to broach the subject with my two closest friends because one is struggling to conceive and the other had a late miscarriage earlier in the year. I feel this may trigger them in some way hence me asking on here.
I have been frantically googling BPAS and terminations all morning. I think I would need to opt for surgical because the pills failed after a missed miscarriage a couple of years ago and I ended up haemorrhaging and going into shock. I’m so frightened, I honestly don’t know what to do.