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Is there ALWAYS one very bitchy, competitive mummy?

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sleepfinder · 08/08/2007 19:21

I am a fairly new mum, and most of the mums I've met have been lovely - we're all in the same boat etc even if we have absolutely nothing else in common, there's that underlying camaraderie. But every now and again I come across a real stinker - a very competitive, unfriendly, bitchy mummy.

It could just be that I'm meeting them when they're having an "off" day, but someone has told me there is always "ONE" lurking, in every given mummy-environment.

Is this true?

Is there anyway to escape it>

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Pages · 09/08/2007 12:44

Yes. My "group" had one. Not bitchy exactly but always competitive and pointing out how clever her darling was. As my DS has SN he was the last to walk and still isn't talking so I wasn't even in the running...

DS2 is very bright but it has made me appreciate how irritating these show off mums are and I don't show off about DS2 at all. In fact I tend to praise him for other qualities. As a child I was always praised for being clever and forward and not much else and it has left scars.

I praise my kids for being kind, sharing, thoughtful etc first and achieving second. I honestly dont care if they end up as doctors or dustmen as long as they are happy, nice people.

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lemonaid · 09/08/2007 12:58

Never come across one in real life, so either I'm particularly unobservant or there isn't always one (unless... horrors... it's me? I doubt it though as DS is resolutely average on most things)

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Cammelia · 09/08/2007 13:06

I've come across one in my dd's year in each of the 2 schools my dd has attended.

However much you wish it wasn't true, they really do exist. Those of you who haven't met one, you're very lucky.

How about this one: when my dd beat her dd at a school swimming training session, she said it was beacuse I stared at her dd thereby putting her off

Thank God this woman has now left not only the school but the country

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Wheelybug · 09/08/2007 13:25

Ah yes, Cammelia there is always an excuse if the child of alphamum comes second...

Anyway, agree that its not the case that there is ALWAYS one and in fact they're not always bitchy - my example below isn't bitchy with it (probably more snide ) but I have to say, in 2.5 years of being a SAHM and mixing a lot with mums she is the only one i have encountered - most are lovely and supportive and great company but you do get some. But I guess thats true in all walks of life.