Italian men

[Paris14eme]

Just started seeing a lovely Italian man- we’re both mid-40’s, both have kids. Got any advice about Italian men?

Yes - they’re not a homogeneous group.

Apparently they speak Italian.

Hahaha!
Enjoy!

They're mostly from Italy.

If they are from Naples they all believe they are F1 drivers! A total nightmare on the road. Yes, it's a blanket statement but the driving in that area is nothing like I have ever experienced before in Europe. Even Italians from other regions say the same.

All 30.3 million are exactly the same

They pinch women's bottoms - all 30.3m of them

Generally the stereotype is that they are flirtatious, romantic, dramatic, sexist and mama's boys.

In reality, each one is an individual with their own personality. also if he is in a different country than his own he may have different views than someone who hasn't left italy.... but then again I have found all sorts of attitudes. Assess him as a man and read up on red flags or post here if not sure about something.

Yes - they’re not a homogeneous group.

This! My DH is Italian but he doesn't seem to have read up on the stereotypes.

One word of warning though - I did used to find Italian a romantic language but that wears off after a few arguments!

My dad is Italian. He is very much set in his ways, a bit sexist (believes men should go out to work, women at home etc), liked to pass comment on women a lot. Having said that he was always very romantic to my mum, and family is very important to Italians. And he is from Naples and doesn't drive lol.

They say Ciao Bella a lot and they eata da pizza.

You will always come second to his mother.
Can turn from wildly romantic to loud mouthed arse in a millisecond.
Often take themselves far too seriously,
That’s just my 20 odd years of experience though.

I've been told they have wide cocks

Definitely not true

At least one of them is hairy from neck to ankles

Well most stereotypes are based on an element of truth. As sometimes the case with some Muslim men, the women I know in relationships with Italian struggle with the wider family aspect who tend to have a higher level of involvement compared to British standards generally. British people would consider this as interfering. I do know people say that’s a DH problem but it really is difficult for these men to change things as it’s considered the norm

other stereotypes, womanizers, high sex libido, their age of consent is 14 so may think nothing of oogling teens or big age gaps, 13 year olds ok to have sex with people 16 or younger, traditional, tempremental, hot headed, strong regionalism, football mad, expects women to look after him and be domestic goddesses cleaning and cooking for him, basically a second mum.

Very family orientated, love kids.

thanks all @TellySavalashairbrush @Caucho yep- almost 3 years on and the mother/ family of origin thing is quite full on. Of course, everybody is an individual… but I do find that Italians are quite tribal ime- and I’m Irish! (Also quite tribal generally tho I’m not so tribal myself). He’s not into football that much (good) but does take himself quite seriously (not so good). Always makes an effort with his clothing /appearance (very good) and is a really good man tbh. Just thought I’d report back 👍😉

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That depends if he’s a Northerner or a Southerner. I used to work with a guy from Bergamo. His home town, he would solemnly tell me, is ‘in the centre of Europe, really civilised, near Switzerland’ with ‘a great university’.
When I told him that me & DP were planning to go on holiday to Naples & the Amalfi coast, he was genuinely appalled. Naples is ‘near Africa’, he told me. ‘It’s full of criminals and illiterate peasants’. We needed to ‘be very careful down there, it’s dangerous & scary.’ I was shocked by this and asked him if he had ever been to Naples himself. ‘No, of course not!’, he replied.

@PlanetNormal Ha! My Greek ex used to say similar derogatory things about people from the south/the islands (of Greece though obviously).

Though weirdly he had no problem holidaying on said islands. It was actually quite bizarre how he always wanted to holiday in Greece…I digress.

My Italian ex was raised in the UK so probably isn’t a good benchmark for ‘Italian men - the homogenous group’ 😂. No weird passed-down traits or beliefs though. He was definitely better than the Greek one!

Mmm I have just returned from a holiday to Italy with my Italian partner and our two dd's. I found that Italy has changed a lot. We were there for 10 days and only saw his family TWICE. No invites to family meals etc. Cousins not interacting or asking to mix. I found the whole experience rather strange and soul destroying, definitely nothing like the stereotype, especially as it was the first time they would be meeting my 18 month old. My partner's mother has passed away though, and I never met her. Maybe that has something to do with it, but there was a general lack of interest in us which was disappointing.

They are not a herd any more than French men, British men, American men etc.